I think the #1 thing I hate about Chinese culture is the concept of “face” (面子)。
It’s shallow, its superficial, it’s materialistic and it’s ridiculous. It causes people to judge you based on what you have/don’t have. This causes a lot of problems in the society. First off, relationships become all about gift giving instead of cherishing each other, secondly it causes people to spend into debt in order to afford superficial things, and thirdly it makes more people judgmental.
In America or Canada or even Korea, I can rest assured knowing that people don’t give 2 shits about what I own or what brands I wear. None of my clothes are designer brands. I don’t own a car. I live in a small apartment. And it makes no difference to the people here. Billionaires here drive Toyotas and Mazdas. So what right? Just because you have money doesn’t mean you should show it off.
But in China, because of the concept of face, you have to show off. And people will judge you if you don’t. It’s a ridiculous concept to me. I guess this is one of the main things I agree about Korean culture more than Chinese culture. I care about my appearance, I want to look my best for people, but I don’t really care what you own or what designer brands you have or how much money you have. It’s not important to who you are as a person.
They value a persons worth and status in society based on how much wealth they can show off. They treat people depending on the brand of clothing or accessories you have. Girls often gossip to one another based on how much their boyfriends bought for them. If that isnt a superficial society I dont know what is. I lived in Korea for 2 years, and people like tl say Koreans are superficial because of plastic surgery and stuff dont realize that Korean society is super competitive and appearance oriented that girls are often forced to do it just to get ahead in society. I dont think in general they are shallow though. You see lots of beautiful women in Korea dating below average looking guys. Compare this to China. You never see guys carry a bunch of shopping bags for their gfs in Korea yet in China guys are expected to buy stuff for their gfs all the time and act like pack mules. I never had a Korean girl ask me about my salary or whether i had a car or a house. For Chinese girls it seems thats the second question they ask me after my name. I would take Koreas obsession over appearance over Chinas obsession over materialism anyday.