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Thoughts on confidence and feminism

This is gonna be another post that will show people more of who I am; following on a very open and honest post that I made, and another post last year where I explained my biggest strength.

I am a very well-read person, and I often read Wikipedia articles in my spare time, because I like reading about various things. Everything peaks my interest. I’ve read articles ranging from history (Opium Wars, Battle of Stalingrad, Huaihai campaign, etc), politics (communism, socialism, dictatorships, etc), technology (Acorn Archimedes, Intel 8080 microprocessor, Lisp programming language, etc), food (history of ketchup, mustard, black pepper, etc), amongst various other things.

The last 20 Articles I’ve read highlight my range of interests (you can google these):

1. Maddox (writer) – internet blogger
2. Ungulate – a group of mammals
3. Camera Obscura – an early type of camera
4. Hypercard – an old standard for web app development
5. St Elmo’s Fire – a natural weather phenomenon
6. Designworks USA – a design company now owned by BMW
7. SteamOS – an operating system for PC games
8. Longines – a swiss watch company
9. Hatoful Boyfriend – a dating simulation game
10. Beringia – an old land bridge between Siberia and Alaska
11. Fight of the Century – a fight between Mohammed Ali and Joe Frazier
12. Jim Morrison – former lead singer of The Doors
13. Corset – a piece of clothing females used to wear
14. Bird’s eye figure – a type of wood decoration
15. Leeroy Jenkins – an circa 2006 internet meme
16. String theory – an alternate theory of the universe
17. Duane Allman – a former guitarist who founded the Allman Brothers and died at only 24
18. Atari Jaguar – a failed video game console from the early 90s
19. Smartbook – a device that is a laptop form factor with an ARM processor (not x86)
20. Sean Plott – an former pro gamer and active youtube streamer

So yes, I know a lot about a variety of things in the world.

But I don’t know how to get a girlfriend. It’s not something you can learn in school, its not something I can learn on Wikipedia, and I wasn’t born with the ability to make good conversation. My last post highlighted why so many girls were ignoring me for apparently no reason, and my best theory is that I am just not that interesting. I need to improve my conversation skills.

Because I have a lot of friends who *are* good talkers, I know the most important things is to have a good sense of humor, and being confident. Those are the most attractive attributes. I’m not a naturally outgoing guy. Although I am good at making public speeches (Toastmasters, presentations, performing), I am very quiet at making conversation in groups, and perhaps the most awkward situation you can put me in is to make conversation with a group of girls. Korean girls especially, are very quiet by nature so its very difficult to make that connection with them.

My shyness is deep rooted… I used to be so shy in high school that I would lock myself in the restrooms just to avoid talking to people in the hallway. That’s how shy I was. I opened up a little in university when I joined all the clubs and Toastmasters and AIESEC, but I am still not naturally charismatic. I know I need to be more confident, and I am not aggressive enough, and too “nice”, and too afraid to offend people with jokes or physical contact, which is why I think I fail so much at the relationship aspect of things. But I will try to improve on this.

Conservative
I realized one of the main reasons why I like Korea so much is because its so conformist. All the guys and girls dress and act similar. As some people may know, I’m a steadfast conservative, and have been since 2009. I’m all for lower taxes, smaller government, rights to freedom, etc but I also want to go back to the US 1950s culture, where everyone was conformist. Back then, all the men wore suits and hats, all the women stayed at home and wore dresses, and I think everyone was more polite and skinnier for sure (thanks childhood obesity) back then as well. So that was an ideal for me, despite the fact that back then people were more racist. But hey, its not so different than Korea is now. Everyone dresses well, people are racist against non-Koreans, and everyone is polite. But I’m not a progressive, and I feel like the more we ‘move forward’, the more chaotic it gets. San Francisco was a little too diverse for me.

Feminism
For all of history, the guy has always been more dominant than the woman. It’s just natural. Males have always hunted, women have always gathered. The history books are dominated by (mostly white) males. And yes, I am kind of conservative in the traditional sense, so I will admit that I don’t understand feminism too well. There are people who think the progress made by women especially western women is good for society and for all societies, but I beg to differ.

I want to talk about is how politically correct the climate in the US is right now. I’m in Korea right now, where the women aren’t exactly equal to men here. Korean women know that they are treated unequally from men, for example they have to wear makeup all the time and men don’t, but they don’t seem to be starting any protests or petitions for this to change. Some Korean girls that I talked to want to be housewives and stay at home and do cooking and housework and all that traditional stuff.

My point is, it depends on the culture. Not every woman in the world wants to be as strong or stronger than the man. Why? Because in those cultures the men have more responsibility and the woman might not want to take on those responsibilities. Yes, in many senses, Korea is what the US was like back in the 1950s when women mostly stayed at home. And last time I checked, the 1950s, as “unequal” as they were, was a pretty good decade economically in the US! Even though mostly the men were working! and how many women complained about it at that time? Certainly not as many as today.

I mean, I think men like girls who are feminine and do traditional women roles, and I think women like guys who are masculine and do traditional men roles. It’s the way animals have always been. You never see a female lion doing the work of a male lion do you? Or the male lion doing a female lion’s work? It’s the way humans have always been. It’s the way society always has been until the 1970s feminist movement. So, yeah, 50 years ago, ask any guy if the woman should be at home doing housework, and he will say yes. If you ask a guy now, they will probably say ‘No, because woman should be empowered, etc’. But I bet many guys are saying that because of the social climate now, and not because they actually like stronger, more independent women.

I think starting from 2013 or 2014 I started to notice more and more feminism going around, like the stuff about Gamergate, and withdrawing GTA 5 from shelves because you can assault women and Female Thor, and all these other things came up that were basically people complaining about things that had been around for a long time, like video games and movies and comic books and putting their feminist slant on it because they were not treated ‘equally’.

I think all of this is unnecessary.. I mean people didn’t have a problem with the other GTAs, and with online video games and comic books and movies back then, and now there’s a petition to put a woman on a $20 bill? that’s just overkill. I don’t know why these issues suddenly came up its not like all these things suddenly changed or something its just that feminists all of a sudden started complaining about them now.

So yeah, thats my traditional conservative view on feminism. I know many people will hate on me for having this traditional view, but hey, it’s my opinion. And it’s freedom of speech. I don’t think its “wrong” to have a view that has been commonplace for most of human history. This is why they have a conservative and liberal party in most republics.