I think I’ll give a simple example of sexism that we see everyday that people might not be aware of.
These are female jeans. Nothing special right? Did you know that jeans were originally invented for cowboys and miners? i.e for men? They weren’t widely worn by women until relatively recently. Now they are commonplace. In fact, women weren’t wearing trousers/pants very often until fairly recently. We are more used to seeing this:
(it was more conservative back then) but my point is dresses and skirts are exclusively for women. They were designed for women and they are exclusively worn by women (drag queens and trans not excepting).
The thing is, if a guy tried to wear women’s clothing i.e a dress or skirt, he would be ridiculed. but girls wear men’s clothing all the time i.e blazers, jeans, pants etc.
If you go to any department store or any clothing store, you will realize almost 80% of the store is dedicated to women, and 20% is for men and/or kids. I’ve always found this to be quite sexist. (not saying that I want to wear a dress, I’m just pointing out)
Why do women have such a wide variety of clothes to wear? Why can’t men have the same? Women have almost so much more choices than guys its crazy. For me, when I go outside I am limited in choosing what to wear. For girls they could wear a dress, or they could wear pants. They could wear flats or they could wear heels.
It frustrates me that men have so little choice in what to wear. And society frowns upon men who wear more crazy outfits, but for women its “chic” and “stylish”. You see this sexism everyday in most cultures in the world actually, and no one complains about it.
Society does not look down on femininity as a weakness for women. It’s only a weakness if a guy is found to be feminine. Because society expects guys to be “masculine” whatever connotations that implies. Femininity is actually a positive trait for women and men often prefer feminine women to masculine women. How many guys prefer girls wear dresses/skirts compared to guys who wear pants/jeans? How many guys prefer slim women to muscular women? Women are only able to dress masculine and remain attractive so long so as they still have some feminine traits i.e long hair. If a woman tries to become masculine i.e cut their hair really short then its seen as a negative and she would be assumed to be a lesbian by some men. Feminine is a positive trait for women and a negative trait for men. Conversely, Masculine is a positive trait for men and a negative trait for women.
One of the things I love most about Korean people is how much they care about fashion and how they dress. Their style is IMO much better looking than American or other Asian styles that I’ve seen so far. It seems almost every Korean girl cares about appearance and how they look. For guys, a lower percentage do, but still many guys do as well. So I want to write about what I’ve seen, since I care about appearance and I often notice how both guys and girls dress and look like here. Korea is also a very homogeneous country, and also very conformist so the same style of skirt or pants that you see on one person you might see several times a day. With that said lets move on to these different styles. I’ll start with guys since there’s less to talk about with them.
Head / Face / Makeup
-Most Korean men don’t dye their hair (some do, but not as common as Korean girls do), keeping it black.
-They prefer to have the bangs go down over their forehead like the picture above.
-Medium length hair is very common (in contrast to Chinese guys who have very short spiky hair, and Japanese guys who sometimes have longer hair reaching down to their neck).
-Most Korean men don’t wear makeup (although some do, its definitely the minority).
-Maybe 50% or so of Korean men did lasik surgery or wear contacts, as Koreans in general do not like wearing glasses compared to other Asians.
-Korean men fully shave their facial hair (in contrast to other Asian men who may keep a stubble or facial hair of some sort).
-Koreans love tight clothing. One of the most common fashion styles for top-wear is to wear a collar shirt, fully buttoned, with either rolled up sleeves or exposing the arms. See above picture for example.
-Young Korean guys and girls, especially couples, love to wear striped shirts, as seen in the picture above. One reason is that they can match it easily to form couple clothing.
-For Older men and fancy occasions, a tight Blazer is a good choice for a fancy date or a good night out.
-Koreans tend not to wear ties outside of work.
These are the three most common styles of fashion for top wear that I’ve seen on Korean men.
-Skinny Jeans or Tight Khakis. Those are the most common items that I’ve seen. Keep it tight, keep it simple.
-In the summer, tight cargo shorts are very common like in the striped shirts picture above.
-Running shoes (Converse type), Loafers (like the pic above) are very common for everyday occasions.
-For fancy occasions, Oxford type or similar shoes can be worn.
-A lot of Korean guys, and me included, don’t wear socks with our shoes for casual occasions.
-Usually Korean men do not wear any hats.
-Very few guys do tattoos or piercings.
-As mentioned before maybe half of all Korean guys wear glasses. They prefer to wear oversized frames, with the shape more roundish than square (Westerners often prefer wearing square frames to round frames).
-Korean guys like to wear watches. Invest in a good classy looking mechanical watch.
This section is going be longer because women care about their appearance and fashion more, so I can’t say every kind of fashion but I will try to list the most common styles I’ve seen.
Head / Face / Makeup
-50% of Korean women dye their hair, usually to brown or reddish-brown tint.
-They don’t like to leave their hair up. Most Korean girls let their hair down.
-Hair is medium length (down to shoulders) or longer (down past the shoulders). There are very few girls who have short hair who are not in high school.
-Perm/Bleach is also fairly common.
-Almost every Korean girl wears makeup (in contrast to Chinese girls who don’t wear makeup). The typical Korean girl puts on lots of eyeliner, lots of foundation or BB Cream to make their skin look paler, slight blush on their cheeks and red lipstick, like in the picture above. They also wear fake eyelashes sometimes.
-Makeup is the single most important thing that changes a girls appearance. Most Korean girls who do plastic surgery do it to get double eyelids instead of single eyelids. But that doesn’t make as noticeable a difference as makeup does. Makeup literally makes their eyes look twice as big as before. The example above shows typical lots of eyeliner to make the eye look bigger, as well as lots of foundation and BB cream to make the skin look paler and cover up imperfections.
-Note that some girls even put makeup on other parts of their body like their legs to hide imperfections.
-Korean girls shave every part of their body, and this needs to be mentioned because some Asians like Chinese girls do NOT shave every part of their body. Yes this includes the upper lip area as well, and a lot of girls prefer to get things lasered instead, so they don’t have to deal with shaving.
-Most Korean girls paint their fingernails and/or toenails. Especially if they are wearing toe-open heels or shoes.
-Most Korean girls get braces for their teeth. (I have to mention this to contrast it to Japanese girls who are known for having crooked teeth).
-Young girls like to wear the striped shirt (as shown above)
-I cannot list all the types of blouses a Korean girl wears, but the above is an example of the type of blouse an older Korean girl would wear. They are usually very feminine and sometimes transparent to show off their arms or chest. The shoulderless shirt is another type of clothing older women wear a lot as well.
-This technically classifies as both top and bottom wear but, Korean girls love to wear dresses, and while I cannot list every single type of dress they wear, I’ve given three examples above of one piece dresses. They like to wear shoulderless types, semi-transparent types, frilly or flare bottoms, straight bottoms, etc.
-Because Korean girls think showing top or their chest is considered more sexy than showing bottom, they often cover the top of their body with a long coat or or jacket while wearing a one piece or skirt underneath.
-As I said, Korean girls love to show wear dresses and generally like to show their legs since its (for some reason) not considered sexy at all to show legs in Korea. Thus Korean girls love to wear short skirts and short shorts as well in addition to dresses.
-Once again I’m not going to list all the different types of skirts that I’ve seen, there’s too many, but there’s some common ones above. Young girls tend to wear flare skirts (or tennis skirt), while older girls wear pencil skirts or A line skirts, sometimes with slits cut in the back.
-Though not as common as the other types of dresses, sometimes Korean girls wear these transparent types of dresses with a short skirt of shorts underneath.
-Since Korean girls love to wear anything that shows their legs off, the shortest pants imaginable are called “hot pants” and often worn in the summer or going clubbing, though some girls wear them day to day. Young girls sometimes wear short exercise shorts or jean shorts. No they don’t exercise in them, they just wear it because it shows a lot of leg.
-Skinny jeans. Though they are in the minority compared to the dresses/skirts.
-While in the summer Korean girls bare their legs, in the colder months they tend to wear stockings in lieu of pants (again because they like to show their legs), either nude/transparent pantyhose or black stockings. I don’t have a picture of transparent pantyhose because, well, they just look like skin from a distance since they “skin colored”.
-Young Korean girls prefer to wear either high heeled sandals, platform shoes or running shoes (Converse or Vans is popular as several photos above attest)
-Older Korean girls wear platform shoes, high heeled shoes or stilettos (sometimes very high)
-No glasses. 90% of Korean girls don’t wear glasses (in contrast to other Asians who often do). They do lasik surgery or wear contacts instead.
-Very few girls do tattoos or non ear piercings.
-Earrings are common, but not on every girl. Some wear them, some don’t. I’ve seen about 50/50 on this.
-Necklaces also common, and also a 50/50.
-Watches also common (in contrast to Westerners who don’t commonly wear watches anymore). I’ve seen more Korean girls wear watches than not, though not as commonly as Korean men do.
-A peculiar feature of Korean fashion is the ankle bracelet. Because so many girls show their legs in Korea, they like to “spice up” their look by wearing these on their leg.
So yeah… that’s about it for now. Since Koreans care so much about appearance, I felt compelled to make this post about Korean fashion 🙂 The overall theme of Korean fashion seems to be “Neat and Clean” style and I think it looks way better than fashion in other parts of the world IMO.
After almost 2 years of living in Seoul, and going to lots of clubs/parties/online websites, I have accumulated enough experience to give a general guide on dating Korean women. Yes I know, I’m not exactly a playboy, but I’ve seen enough guys dating girls here and know enough about Korean culture to give my 2 cents on this, and I know that some foreigner guys come to Korea exclusively to find women here, so here it is.
HOW TO MEET A KOREAN GIRL:
-I am Chinese Canadian, so dating in Korea is a little bit more difficult for me than for white people. As with any other Asian country, White people have the most advantage due to Hollywood/America etc all that stuff that Asian women like. Like other Asian women, Korean girls think that every guy in America looks like Chris Evans and has alot of money. So if you are white, then definitely you have the most advantage.
-That said, out of all Asian girls, Korean girls are also the hardest to get for a foreigner. Why is this? Because its a small country. Koreans have a culture where they support each other, very family oriented etc which means that a number of girls strictly only date with Korean guys. This is not a majority of girls though, as a sizeable amount are open to dating with foreigners.
-The BEST way to date a Korean girl is to get introduced. The culture here emphasizes blind dating. So if you know a Korean friend, he/she can introduce you, thats the best way. Otherwise you will have to use online meetup websites, or language exchange sites, or applications like HelloTalk or MEEP to get to know a girl. This is more difficult to get to know them because Korean girls are super flaky and a lot of them don’t trust meeting guys online. Out of the language sites and apps I used, only about 30-40% responded to me, and out of that response rate, maybe a third was willing to meet up while the other girls were Kakao chats only.
-Speaking of Kakao, that is the WeChat of Korea, the QQ of Korea, if you will. Absolutely if you want to contact a girl, be sure to download the KakaoTalk application and sign up, since every Korean girl uses that app to communicate.
-One night stand is fairly common especially in the areas of Seoul known for good nightlife like Hongdae or Itaewon. If you are white especially, just go to any club, be sure to have a wingman, and try talking up some girls and knowing a bit of Korean doesn’t hurt either. You should always be the one to talk though, Korean girls aren’t known for being loud or very talkative.
-Most young Korean girls can speak English alright, but not fluently. You should learn some basic Korean if you want to communicate with a girl effectively, but there are lots of girls in Hongdae/Itaewon who know English pretty well too, so if you go to those areas you might be ok.
-Do NOT make sexual jokes with a Korean girl or ask her over to your place unless you know them very well or if its a sleazy type of girl you met at a club. Most Korean girls will not go to a guys place the first time you meet them. They want to take time to get to know you first before they can come over.
-Lots of Korean girls go to church, how devoted they are depends on the girl, but church is always a good way to meet people, if your Korean is good enough to understand what they are saying.
-If you are brave enough, approaching a girl in a public area to ask for her number is actually done by many guys and is called “hunting”. Depends on the time and place, but it may work out, especially if you are white.
-Attracting a Korean girl is much like attracting any woman and the laws of picking up apply equally no matter where you are in the world – women are attracted to men who are funny, outgoing, can relate to them, listen to them, share similar interests, etc. Thus for playboys who have success in America or Europe, in Korea and other parts of Asia its not too big of a leap. For introverted guys like me, its much more difficult and takes more time. But thats the way things are in life.
HOW TO DATE A KOREAN GIRL:
-A relationship with a Korean girl is a give a lot – get a lot type of relationship. You have to text/call her a lot, so Korean girls are definitely high maintenance. I’d say like 50-60 texts a day especially if the girl is young. What you get in return is a girl who really does care about you and very sweet and loving, in my opinion. They do little things for you like help you put on your coat, buy gifts for you, do cute things with you etc they can be very sweet if you put in the time for them.
-Usually on a date, the guy is expected to pay for the main meal, and the girl usually pays for coffee/tea later. One side doesn’t pay for everything.
-You are expected to remember the major couple days in Korea, and there is a lot, in addition to bday/anniversary there is valentines day (2/14) where the girl gets the guy a gift and white day (3/14) where the guy gets the girl a gift. Pretty much very month has some of kind of couple day like Rose day or Peppero day (a Pocky-like snack) so be aware of these days.
-Also be sure to show off your romance with lots of couple pictures and wearing couple outfits and things like that (this especially applies if you are dating a young girl in her early 20s). Koreans love to show off how much they care for each other.
-Korean girls can be very jealous, and some girls might even ask you not to meet any of your female friends. This is normal in Korea, where relationships tend to be very exclusive, and time for meeting other people are restricted if you are in a relationship. This is in accordance with the give a lot / get a lot thing. This is also why Korea has a very high proportion of couples that you see in public compared to other countries.
-Don’t be messy. Make sure if you invite a Korean girl over to your place, everything is super clean and tidy. That’s what they expect.
-They prefer the man to make the decisions for them. So when you set up a date, be sure to decide on the places to go, schedule, etc they will be expecting you to. They are very feminine and so they prefer guys to take the initiative.
WHY A KOREAN GIRL OVER OTHER ASIAN GIRLS:
-Korean girls are known as amongst the most beautiful women in the world, at least superficially, and they are probably the most self-conscious insecure women in Asia. Almost every girl wears makeup all the time, and dresses up like its clubbing attire all the time. Short skirts, high heels, transparent stockings (yes even in winter) are pretty normal wear for Korean women. You will probably find them the most feminine out of all Asian women. They all like to have pale skin, red lips and perfect straight white teeth (unlike Japanese girls). A lot of people try to put down Korean girls thinking they have so called ‘fake’ beauty but don’t listen to them, just because they put on makeup all the time or care about their appearance a lot doesn’t mean they were ugly before. Its just a part of their manners and culture.
-Yes alot of girls get plastic surgery but to be fair, 80% of the time, this is for getting double eyelids to make their eyes look bigger. This is why you will see more Korean girls with bigger eyes than Korean guys. If you have a problem with girls wearing a lot of makeup or having surgery on her face, then Korean girls are probably not for you (You should probably try Chinese girls instead).
-As I said, if you put time into the relationship, they can be very very sweet and loving women, and very devoted. I can’t compare with other Asian girls much, but definitely they put alot of effort into the relationship.
-No expectation for the guy to cook or do housework, since most Korean men can’t. But its always a plus if you can!
-For marriage, guy buys the house, but girl will buy the furniture, girl’s family will pay for wedding, and chuseok/new year’s preparations are almost solely done by the women.
-Great fashion sense, and you’ll also notice 90% of Korean girls don’t wear glasses, preferring contacts or lasik surgery instead.
-Korean women shave every part of their body except ‘down under’, but some do if you ask them to.
-Most Korean girls are very polite and nice to people, but also very shy at first glance. You have to get them to open up.
-Korean girls can be very very superficial and shallow sometimes. They care alot about fashion, style, appearance, hygiene. They don’t like facial hair. So go for a clean cut appearance, no glasses, blazer, collar shirt, khakis etc are all good. No baggy stuff, tattoos, messy hair, beards, bling etc they hate that.
-Guys who are tall and fit and muscular definitely have an advantage over other guys.
-They are high maintenance. You have to put a lot of time into them, and spend a lot of time with them. This is why you always see couples everywhere in Korea. They are very dependent on guys. So you can’t be ignoring them or spending time with other people as often.
-Again, the extreme jealousy part… Korean girls can get pretty crazy if they find you with another girl talking or texting. Be wary of these things.
-Yes some girls are gold diggers, but this can be said for any girl in the world, so take caution with that.
-More so than any other Asian race, Korean women are loyal to their race and because of their conservative culture, a fair amount only stick to Korean guys. So just be aware there’s a sizeable portion that you just can’t get as a foreigner.
-The hottest girls (10s) don’t speak English at all. Which makes them pretty much Korean men material only. You can try but… unless you are a celebrity it will be very difficult.
All in all, Korean women IMO are the hottest girls in Asia, surgery or not. Their mind is in between Chinese women and Japanese women, which means they aren’t totally blunt but not totally hiding their emotions either. If you like a girl who cares about her appearance, and are willing to put in the time and effort you will be rewarded, so check out South Korea if you have the chance. Hope this post helps you guys.