Which country is better for men, China or Korea?

South Korea is for a number of reasons. Yes the men have to do mandatory military service there for 2 years but its a small price to pay for a number of advantages:

  1. Korea’s a more ‘traditional’ country where women especially in the southern parts like Gyeongsang-do and Jeolla-do and Jeju-do, do most or all of the housework, cooking and child-bearing. Many mothers in these parts specifically raise their daughters to expect to take on these burdens after marriage. In China, the husband and wife usually share household duties. Housewives are common in Korea, but almost unheard of in China.
  2. China has a gender imbalance. 20–30 million more men than women which has caused the side effect of having somewhat spoiled women. Korean men still outnumber women but the ratio is not as bad and in cities like Seoul there is actually more women than men (partly due to a portion of men being stationed for the military), this means men don’t have to compete as much for the women.
  3. Going with the ‘less independent’ theme, Korea is home to the OECD’s highest gender pay gap, the women make on average 30% less than the men do! China on the other hand (they are not part of the OECD) has one of the smallest gender pay gaps, even better than the USA! Percentage wise, there are way more Chinese female CEOs than Korean female CEOs. In Korea, the job most women aspire to is to be a flight attendant – think about that. A job that requires you to be pretty and subservient. Hardly a Chinese girl’s dream job – they want to start their own businesses. See the difference? So Korea is better for men, because less independent/less money = harder to divorce = men have more advantage.
  4. More eye candy for men. For better or worse, Chinese women seem to dress like American women, more casually, whereas Korean women wear more feminine outfits. Yes, I know most Korean women probably dress for themselves not for men, but still you can’t ignore that it is better eye candy for the men. The Korean school uniforms are way better looking than Chinese school uniforms and a lot of women wear short skirts and dresses even in the winter. And you can’t forget about the pool parties and outdoor festivals in the summer. Bikinis everywhere lol.


  1. The justice system is more favorable to men than women. Police don’t care about domestic disputes at all, so men can often get away with doing anything to his wife. As another example, there was a case of a woman taking nude pics of a male art model and spreading it around – she was sentenced to 2 years in jail. Meanwhile, in another case a guy was spreading nude pics of his ex-gf / revenge porn and guess what, he gets a $2000 fine. No jailtime.
  2. Korea is also more open about sex, and while prostitution exists in a legal grey area in both countries, Korea is more tolerant about it than China is. Adult sex shops are everywhere. Motels are everywhere. Korea has the second most prostitutes per capita in the world right next to Philippines. I don’t have the specific statistics, but it wouldn’t surprise me to know that Korean men cheat more on average than Chinese men do. The society just makes it so much easier to. And while porn is banned in both countries, Korea at least has sexy movies. Remember when Tang Wei was blacklisted from China for those sex scenes in Lust, Caution? Kim Tae-ri started her career doing lesbian sex scenes in The Handmaiden.

Or how about The Concubine so many of these steamy Joseon-era movies that China wouldn’t dare make.

This is a plus for men, because obviously men need to relieve themselves more than women do, and the more open a country is about it, the better for them.

What are the top 10 things that Chinese don’t know about Korea?

I think the biggest and #1 misconception China has about Korea is that they often think Koreans are much more arrogant and vain than they actually are. I think their impressions of Koreans = nationalistic netizens. But those are not the everyday Korean people, just like how nationalistic Chinese netizens do not represent the average Chinese.

Since 2013 I’ve been back to Korea each and every year, and I’ve never met any Korean that hated China or thought that Korea was better than China or thought that Confucius/chinese festivals/chinese history/etc was Korean, never. Yet this is a widespread belief amongst Chinese people both I met in person and online, I’m not exactly sure why.

Personally from my experience (both online and in person), I’ve found that Chinese people brag a lot more about their country than Koreans do. Many Koreans actually dislike their country a lot (young peoples call it ‘Hell Joseon’) and one of the main differences I’ve found between Korean and Chinese is that Koreans lack a lot of self-confidence (either in their English or appearance or abilities, etc) whereas Chinese are very confident in themselves. So I don’t know how Chinese could think that Koreans are arrogant unless their opinion comes from nationalistic Korean netizens only (2002 World Cup controversy etc I’ve never met a Korean who actually brought up this topic in person, only online).

I think #2 misconception is that USA controls South Korea and can order it to attack anyone they want but its not true:

After becoming a democracy in the 1990s, the South Korean government assumed peacetime command of its 655,000 active military personnel.

The South Korean military coordinates closely with the Combined Forces Command and the United Nations Command led by U.S. General Vincent Brooks, who is also commander of the 28,500-plus member U.S. military force in Korea.

In wartime, the U.S. commander would assume control of South Korean forces as well, but it is not an automatic transfer of command. The South Korean president has to first agree to cede that control.

South Korea could soon take control of its own wartime operations from the USSouth Korea actually has full control over its military even in war-time in the near future

Are South Koreans arrogant and superficial as they say to be?

No, not in general. I find Koreans to be actually quite humble about themselves and perhaps insecure as well. You gotta understand Korea is a very Confucian country and has a strict hierarchy. As a general rule you cannot show arrogance to your boss or higher ups, it’s not tolerated. You must show humility.

Most Koreans live cookie cutter lives where they are expected to study all day as a student and work all day as an adult. When I suggested to my Korean friends to start their own company, or work abroad, they were too scared to take any risks like that and lacked any confidence in their English, also most Koreans are very loyal to their parents and don’t like to be far away from them.

Do most Koreans think they are better than Chinese/Japanese? For that I don’t think so because in general Koreans don’t really care about geopolitics. Many Chinese pre-occupy themselves so much with making enemies with Koreans/Japanese but for Koreans they are mostly apathetic to that. I’ve never heard Koreans say that their country is the best, merely they have pride in their country (but that is normal for any country’s citizens). So I must say I don’t think Koreans are arrogant at all. Even the most beautiful girls I met in Seoul or Busan would not generalize and say that their women are better than Chinese/Japanese women.

On the other hand I have experienced quite the opposite with another certain group of people Tong Zou’s answer to Are the Chinese people losing their natural humility and turning arrogant?

As for superficial, in the appearance sense yes Koreans are superficial. They will judge you on your hair, your clothes, your style, your makeup, etc. In the materialistic sense, not really. Not as much as Chinese are anyways. I’ve never had any Korean girl ask me about my salary (many Chinese girls do this to me), nor are they interested in what brands or stuff I wear or what car I drive. None of my ex-girlfriends cared about that at all. So I must say that Koreans are superficial but not as materialistic as people believe.

Keep in mind, people like to call me a Korean sympathizer or a Chinese traitor or whatever (most recently I shared a post on my profile talking about how China boycotting Korean goods because of the THAAD was an extremely petty move and got hate for it from Chinese people), but if you look at all my answers, I always write what I believe to be the truth and to be as unbiased as I can. It may seem like I write alot of anti-Chinese or pro-Korean posts but it’s not because I am taking sides, I am just writing from what I have experienced personally in my life, having lived in China and lived in Korea, and making lots of Chinese and Korean friends. For example I say negative things about Korea too: Tong Zou’s answer to What do non-Koreans dislike about Korean culture and Korean people? As you can see I am not biased to any race or culture. I consider myself a Canadian above all else. That means I don’t blindly believe everything the CCP does is good, nor do I hate Chinese nor do I think Koreans are the best, or anything. If I have disagreements with Chinese people, its because I think they are too biased to their own country, not because I hate China and am a traitor or US puppet or something, so… I hope people can understand that.