Is China the least sexist of the East Asian countries?

In general, yes China has better gender equality than Korea and Japan.

For example if you’re looking at the percentage of female CEOs (often a good measuring stick for breaking the glass ceiling) – China has the second highest proportion of female CEOs in the world List of female top executives – Wikipedia – this exceeds even the USA by quite a big margin. Compare this to Japan and Korea, where female CEOs only make up a mere 2% of the companies.

In general everyday life, Chinese women enjoy great career flexibility compared to Japanese and Korean women. There are a substantial portion of Chinese women who will say their dream career is to be an entrepreneur and starting their own business. In contrast, a large portion of Japanese and Korean women’s dream jobs is to be a flight attendant.

There are rarely pure housewives in China who stay home all day, whereas Korea and Japan have a substantial percentage of housewives who do nothing but stay home and take care of their babies.

I can’t speak for Japan on this but since I lived in Korea, I know that Koreans have traditional ceremonies on Lunar New Year and Chuseok (Thanksgiving) where the women have to traditionally prepare all the food for the guests and relatives. The men don’t have to do anything. I don’t think such a tradition still exists in China.

There are a lot of female-only occupations in Korea and Japan (for example most hairdressers are female, airline attendants are almost always female, etc) whereas in China, most jobs can be performed by both genders.

Women’s rights in China is far better than Korea as well. Abortion was only legalized last year in Korea, whereas abortion had been legal for over 3 decades in China. The punishment for sexual assault/rape in Korea is a mere few years in prison. The operator of the sex trafficking hub Soranet for example only got a few years and the 200k+ males who were in the Nth telegram scandal (Nth room case – Wikipedia) are not going to be punished at all. This is not even mentioning the spy camera epidemic in Korea (Hundreds of South Korean motel guests were secretly filmed and live-streamed online). In China, such crimes would have much more severe punishment.

In addition, women in China get significant other advantages over Korean/Japanese women. They are not under as much pressure to put on makeup or dress up as much. They don’t have as much financial burden – In Korea/Japan, the women will still have to pay for some costs of dating and marriage and buying a house, but in China the men bear almost 100% of those costs. There is a dowry in China where the men have to pay a substantial amount of money to marry, but it does not exist in Korea/Japan. These are more negatives for Chinese men then they are positives for Chinese women, but I feel like I should still mention them.

Also from what I’ve seen, meeting Chinese women, Korean women and Japanese women and traveling in their countries, Chinese women have much more freedom with regards to how they can express themselves. A tomboy in Korea or Japan (especially Korea), is not very welcomed by their society, but in China tomboys exist everywhere. This is related to what I said about them not being under as much pressure to dress or do makeup or behave a certain way, whereas especially in Korea you will find almost all women dress or do makeup in a feminine manner and are expected to behave in a ‘softer, gentler’ way.

Korean women are often shocked when they travel to China and see how strong Chinese women are there. For example, you will see women physically abusing men in China. This is unheard of in Korea and I have never seen it there. There is more pressure on Korean and Japanese women to be traditionally feminine in their society compared to Chinese women.


Thoughts on confidence and feminism

This is gonna be another post that will show people more of who I am; following on a very open and honest post that I made, and another post last year where I explained my biggest strength.

I am a very well-read person, and I often read Wikipedia articles in my spare time, because I like reading about various things. Everything peaks my interest. I’ve read articles ranging from history (Opium Wars, Battle of Stalingrad, Huaihai campaign, etc), politics (communism, socialism, dictatorships, etc), technology (Acorn Archimedes, Intel 8080 microprocessor, Lisp programming language, etc), food (history of ketchup, mustard, black pepper, etc), amongst various other things.

The last 20 Articles I’ve read highlight my range of interests (you can google these):

1. Maddox (writer) – internet blogger
2. Ungulate – a group of mammals
3. Camera Obscura – an early type of camera
4. Hypercard – an old standard for web app development
5. St Elmo’s Fire – a natural weather phenomenon
6. Designworks USA – a design company now owned by BMW
7. SteamOS – an operating system for PC games
8. Longines – a swiss watch company
9. Hatoful Boyfriend – a dating simulation game
10. Beringia – an old land bridge between Siberia and Alaska
11. Fight of the Century – a fight between Mohammed Ali and Joe Frazier
12. Jim Morrison – former lead singer of The Doors
13. Corset – a piece of clothing females used to wear
14. Bird’s eye figure – a type of wood decoration
15. Leeroy Jenkins – an circa 2006 internet meme
16. String theory – an alternate theory of the universe
17. Duane Allman – a former guitarist who founded the Allman Brothers and died at only 24
18. Atari Jaguar – a failed video game console from the early 90s
19. Smartbook – a device that is a laptop form factor with an ARM processor (not x86)
20. Sean Plott – an former pro gamer and active youtube streamer

So yes, I know a lot about a variety of things in the world.

But I don’t know how to get a girlfriend. It’s not something you can learn in school, its not something I can learn on Wikipedia, and I wasn’t born with the ability to make good conversation. My last post highlighted why so many girls were ignoring me for apparently no reason, and my best theory is that I am just not that interesting. I need to improve my conversation skills.

Because I have a lot of friends who *are* good talkers, I know the most important things is to have a good sense of humor, and being confident. Those are the most attractive attributes. I’m not a naturally outgoing guy. Although I am good at making public speeches (Toastmasters, presentations, performing), I am very quiet at making conversation in groups, and perhaps the most awkward situation you can put me in is to make conversation with a group of girls. Korean girls especially, are very quiet by nature so its very difficult to make that connection with them.

My shyness is deep rooted… I used to be so shy in high school that I would lock myself in the restrooms just to avoid talking to people in the hallway. That’s how shy I was. I opened up a little in university when I joined all the clubs and Toastmasters and AIESEC, but I am still not naturally charismatic. I know I need to be more confident, and I am not aggressive enough, and too “nice”, and too afraid to offend people with jokes or physical contact, which is why I think I fail so much at the relationship aspect of things. But I will try to improve on this.

I realized one of the main reasons why I like Korea so much is because its so conformist. All the guys and girls dress and act similar. As some people may know, I’m a steadfast conservative, and have been since 2009. I’m all for lower taxes, smaller government, rights to freedom, etc but I also want to go back to the US 1950s culture, where everyone was conformist. Back then, all the men wore suits and hats, all the women stayed at home and wore dresses, and I think everyone was more polite and skinnier for sure (thanks childhood obesity) back then as well. So that was an ideal for me, despite the fact that back then people were more racist. But hey, its not so different than Korea is now. Everyone dresses well, people are racist against non-Koreans, and everyone is polite. But I’m not a progressive, and I feel like the more we ‘move forward’, the more chaotic it gets. San Francisco was a little too diverse for me.

For all of history, the guy has always been more dominant than the woman. It’s just natural. Males have always hunted, women have always gathered. The history books are dominated by (mostly white) males. And yes, I am kind of conservative in the traditional sense, so I will admit that I don’t understand feminism too well. There are people who think the progress made by women especially western women is good for society and for all societies, but I beg to differ.

I want to talk about is how politically correct the climate in the US is right now. I’m in Korea right now, where the women aren’t exactly equal to men here. Korean women know that they are treated unequally from men, for example they have to wear makeup all the time and men don’t, but they don’t seem to be starting any protests or petitions for this to change. Some Korean girls that I talked to want to be housewives and stay at home and do cooking and housework and all that traditional stuff.

My point is, it depends on the culture. Not every woman in the world wants to be as strong or stronger than the man. Why? Because in those cultures the men have more responsibility and the woman might not want to take on those responsibilities. Yes, in many senses, Korea is what the US was like back in the 1950s when women mostly stayed at home. And last time I checked, the 1950s, as “unequal” as they were, was a pretty good decade economically in the US! Even though mostly the men were working! and how many women complained about it at that time? Certainly not as many as today.

I mean, I think men like girls who are feminine and do traditional women roles, and I think women like guys who are masculine and do traditional men roles. It’s the way animals have always been. You never see a female lion doing the work of a male lion do you? Or the male lion doing a female lion’s work? It’s the way humans have always been. It’s the way society always has been until the 1970s feminist movement. So, yeah, 50 years ago, ask any guy if the woman should be at home doing housework, and he will say yes. If you ask a guy now, they will probably say ‘No, because woman should be empowered, etc’. But I bet many guys are saying that because of the social climate now, and not because they actually like stronger, more independent women.

I think starting from 2013 or 2014 I started to notice more and more feminism going around, like the stuff about Gamergate, and withdrawing GTA 5 from shelves because you can assault women and Female Thor, and all these other things came up that were basically people complaining about things that had been around for a long time, like video games and movies and comic books and putting their feminist slant on it because they were not treated ‘equally’.

I think all of this is unnecessary.. I mean people didn’t have a problem with the other GTAs, and with online video games and comic books and movies back then, and now there’s a petition to put a woman on a $20 bill? that’s just overkill. I don’t know why these issues suddenly came up its not like all these things suddenly changed or something its just that feminists all of a sudden started complaining about them now.

So yeah, thats my traditional conservative view on feminism. I know many people will hate on me for having this traditional view, but hey, it’s my opinion. And it’s freedom of speech. I don’t think its “wrong” to have a view that has been commonplace for most of human history. This is why they have a conservative and liberal party in most republics.


Life in Korea, 2014: Year in Review

Wow, it’s Christmas time already. Time passes by so fast. Merry Christmas everyone, and have a happy new year.

As many of you know, I’ve completed my transition to Korean life, since I sacrificed a lot to move here, I am determined to make good use of my time year.

A few things I want to say about life in Korea compared to life in Western culture. One thing is that gender roles are very separated here, another thing is that people really care about appearances here, and lastly, there’s less individuality here than in America/Canada.

Firstly, I appreciate that gender roles are very clear and distinct here. You don’t have to worry about making a possibly sexist remark, or having feminists complain about something controversial, because it’s very clear here that men have an advantage over women. And Korean women accept it and don’t complain about it. As a guy this makes it much easier to live here.

Secondly, when people care about appearances, society is better for it. Would I rather live in a place where people dress up all the time, where women wear high heels all the time, to a place like Silicon Valley where people can come to work unshaved and in their pajamas? Yes I would. I can compliment a girl on her appearance here and she will react positively to it, whereas in America if I called a girl pretty she would probably glare at me. I never got called handsome when I was in America/Canada, but here I do get compliments sometimes, which is very nice.
We often associate caring about appearance with the word “shallow” which has a negative meaning in western culture. But caring about appearance is not a bad thing. Caring about appearance too much is a bad thing sure, but caring about looking good and hygiene and stuff is generally a good thing and people look much better and cleaner because of it.

Lastly, if you’ve seen different kpop groups on TV, you can see how similar they dress and act. The same is true of Korean society. Everyone dresses and acts similar. Of course, everyone has a distinct personality as well, but there’s less individualism as in Western culture, and more of a group culture here. Doing things alone isn’t very common here. Korean women might have less personality than Western women, but in general they are very nice, polite and dedicated to their boyfriends, and care more about their appearance, so you know more or less what you are getting with them.

Ok, so now onto my annual year in review.

2014: Year in Review

-Found a job that lets me work remotely
-BitTorrent helped my career experience a lot
-Korean improved
-Rented my SF apartment out to my good friend
-Found my own place in Korea!

-Financial situation unchanged
-Bedbug infestation which hurt (both physically and financially)
-Nothing new with relationships
-Made very few good friends
-Unexciting year in general

Let me start the summary by comparing this year to the previous 2 years:

2012 was probably the most exciting year of my life. I was still new to California, I went to language exchange meetups, made a lot of good friends, traveled to almost all the good places on the west coast (SF, Napa, Yosemite, Lake Tahoe, Stanford, Berkeley, Monterey, Carmel, Santa Cruz, Point Reyes, Las Vegas, Grand Canyon, LA, San Diego), work at my company Switchfly was flexible, and I often hung out with my good co-worker friend to play badminton, tennis or video games after work. That whole year from the beginning where I toured my brother across SF, to the end where I spent Christmas and New Years in San Diego with a Korean girl, was amazing. If I had any year I could go back to my life, it would be 2012.

2013 was a year of ups and downs. I went to a lot of parties and clubs, met a lot of people, went to Korea for the first time, went to Vancouver, and got a job at BitTorrent. On the other hand, I suffered a lot of financial loss, a lot of heartbreak, and in general was disappointed with that year compared to 2012.

This year in comparison to 2013, is a year of steadiness. Not a lot of exciting things happened this year, mostly because I was focused on two main goals: 1) Improve my Korean and 2) get to Korea. Ever since I came back from Korea in Sept 2013, I found California very uninspiring, and needed some motivation.
So for the majority of this year, I was hanging out with my good American friend who I met at a meetup, didn’t meet a lot of good friends, went to very few clubs and parties, studied Korean a lot, went to Korea for one week in May, and focused on my goals a lot. So compared to the ups and downs of 2013, this year 2014 was basically a straight line, until the last 4 months, where I went to Toronto, found a job that lets me work remotely, dealt with a bedbug infestation, property tax, SFMTA towing citation, paperwork for renting out my place, ramped up my Korean with a tutor, said goodbye to my SF friends, took out a 1/3rd of my savings to fund my move, found a place in Korea with very limited Korean, and settled down in Korea working from a different time zone. All of that in the last 4 months of this year.

So yeah, this year was relatively unexciting compared to the last 2 years, but at least I achieved my goals by the end of the year, and that’s all that really matters.