On the 10th anniversary of the iPhone, people have been celebrating how revolutionary it was.. and yes, it does deserve all that praise. Steve Jobs was a brilliant marketing genius and visionary. Apple products haven’t been the same since he passed away. The Apple Watch (whats the use case?), the iPad Pro (stylus?), the new iPhones (no headphone jack?) and the new MacBook lineup (all USBC?) have all been criticized a lot since they came out and some design flaws like the camera bump in the new iPhones, no headphone jack, the elimination of magsafe and switch to all USBC etc have caused to people to wonder if Steve Jobs was alive if those things would have been approved.
Well, I’m not sure, but definitely I can say the presentations haven’t been as awe-inspiring with Tim Cook in charge. He’s more of a quiet delegator whereas Steve could light up the room and take charge with everything.
The iPhone brought *capacitative* touch computing to the massive. Previously, touch screens have been mostly resistive touch which made those devices very hard to use and required a stylus to use them. Back in the mid 2000s I did use some Palm devices, Pocket PCs and carried around a hefty Windows Convertible PC (yes they had those back then!) all which required styluses to use. It was a pain.
After the iPhone and iPad came out, every device got much easier to use, and just using the fingers was so simple and easy.
There are some things I miss about the pre-iphone phones though. I think people unfairly look at the old Blackberrys and Windows Mobile devices as crap compared to the iPhone but thats not exactly true. People forget that the original iPhone had no 3G, no copy+paste, you couldn’t attach images in emails, there was no selfie cam, there was no video capability or flash, no third party app store, etc. A lot of smartphones back then had all those features. No it wasn’t as easy to install a third party app onto a Pocket PC or Palm OS device as an iPhone’s App Store, but there definitely was a thriving marketplace for those old devices. It wasn’t as bad as people thought it was.
Moreover, I liked how every device looked so unique. You had flip phones, slider phones, swivel phones, dual slider phones, transforming phones, etc. These days everyone has the same phone.. iPhone 7, Samsung Galaxy, etc the same black slabs everywhere. Back then there was very slim chances you and your friend had the exact same phone model. Here are some standouts (I own alot of these):
Yeah especially Nokia had a lot of really cool designs… we won’t be seeing these kind of designs anymore unfortunately.
And another thing is cellphone charms! remember those?
Young people might not even know that back then, phones had a hole where you could attach a charm to it.. that hole is not longer on modern smartphones so cellphone charms (the way people could customize their phones) have now been replaced by smartphone cases, which IMO isn’t quite as great. Yeah you can still customize your phone with a case, but its not the same as having a good old fashioned charm.
So yeah just pointing out some of the negative side effects of iPhone’s legacy..
In other news, I’m going to Korea next month and not a moment too soon.. been dying here of boredom having nothing to really do. my plan right now is to just save up money for next year. After the hassle of getting yet another work visa at the border, I don’t really plan on doing that again. I’m planning to leave in another year or so, and go back to either Korea or Canada. Yes, that means I’ll have to leave my current job, but unless I can work remotely it just won’t work out. I don’t get enough vacation time with my current job to get the freedom that I want.
Also, planning on selling my home too. There are a few reasons for this. Yes having a place in San Francisco is nice and all, but the housing market in SF is beginning to cool off, and for the price I could sell my apartment for, I could easily buy another place in the US (I’m thinking San Diego because of the weather and West coast location), AND have enough spare money to help me get another place in Vancouver Canada (with the help of a mortgage) as well. I’ll just rent out a storage locker while the unit is on sale and then just move things out when I get my new places. But yeah that’s my longer term plan. My best friend in San Francisco is in the same situation as me except he is 5 years older so its probably even more urgent for him, but he doesn’t want to stay here either. And besides him I have very few friends and very little reason to stay in SF. 90% of my friends are in Korea or Canada so it makes more sense to move to those places instead. I’m in the USA just for saving up money that’s it, but hopefully the US/CAD exchange rate remains the same next year else I’m losing a lot of money if I don’t exchange now…
Well, as a lot of my friends know now, I was laid off a month ago at my previous company Walmart Labs, and I’ve spent the last 2 weeks doing a lot of hectic interviewing. I enjoyed doing interviewing and coding exercises when I was young but now I am kind of annoyed of having to do them over and over. And companies judge you a lot based on how well you do on those, based on arbitrary parameters. I did get to learn a lot more ReactJS and Angular 2 / TypeScript and did get to compare the two a little. Its interesting that JS, once a language that was thought to be a ‘kiddie’ programming language, now can be considered more closer to Java than ever now, as we have ES6 and TypeScript and classes / static functions / constructors / type checking all coming into play now.
So after interviewing with a bunch of companies, I’ve settled on a small-medium sized company based in downtown SF called Spigit, which is an innovation management company. Part of the reason I chose them is because 1) they are in downtown SF and I hate commuting 2) the people and work environment reminds me of Switchfly the first company I worked at which is a good thing 3) they will work with Angular 2 which I did enjoy learning and feel its not a steep a learning curve as ReactJS.
Other than that, life is boring. I got homesick a lot when I was living in Korea, and now that I’ve been back for 2 months, I’ve missed Korea a lot too. I only have one good friend Ethan here, and we usually hang out at least once a week. My other good friend Tony moved down to Redwood City so its hard to see him, and my other good friend Patrick is pretty hard to get a hold of these days as well. So yeah its been hard making friends, and I find myself more and more missing my life back in 2011-2014. Those were the days when I could go to meetups, meet a lot of cool people, there were a lot of Korean international students back then, and I liked working at my company. That’s part of the reason why I chose this company is because it reminds me of my old one – but I know that times have changed, and the Meetups are definitely not the same as before and there’s definitely not as many Koreans in the city as before.
I used to meet Koreans a lot on the conversation exchange websites – now I am lucky to see even one new Korean on that website I haven’t seen before. I think its a combination of Trump’s anti-immigration policies + cost of living in SF going up that has driven away alot of international students.
I have pretty much given up hope of meeting the right girl now. I failed to bring a girl back from Korea – and now there’s 0% chance of meeting a Korean girl here that would be interested in me. Its hard to meet ANY Korean here, let a lone a cute girl who’s interested in me. And SF might be the worst place ever to meet a girl – not only is SF getting more and more gentrified – which means more engineers come here which are mostly men – but any decent looking girl who comes here automatically gets bombed / spammed by guys as soon as she comes here! There’s absolutely NO chance of meeting anyone on a dating site because almost guy here is on there and any cute girls get their inbox spammed after a few days – its not uncommon to see some Korean or Chinese girls with their inbox too full to even message on OKC! My friend’s current gf (who is Chinese so she doesn’t usually wear makeup or dress up that much) gets hit on constantly at her work and guys constantly compliment her and want to take her out and buy her stuff. And that’s without her putting that much time into her appearance! Imagine if the typical makeup / short-skirt wearing Korean girl comes here what would happen? I fear they might get stalked and/or raped.. I’ve had stories of some of my Korean friends going back to Korea and still being contacted by guys that they met in America a year before. Combine this with the fact that most girls in SF don’t pay attention to their appearance + are super feminist = you get tons of desperate horny guys here salivating for traditional Asian girls.
Adding onto those woes, my plan of going to Vancouver has been thwarted by my company suddenly letting me go – and remote jobs are really hard to find so my new plan is to stay with my new company for a year – I am a contractor now after all – and save up money to buy a place in Vancouver so I can move there in the future.
I also have some travel plans this year. First of all I should go to Vancouver next week so that I can renew my TN Visa with my new company (fingers crossed Trump won’t make any changes with the TN visa), then I will definitely go back to Korea sometime in the summer.
I have three girls who *might* be interested in me back in Korea – one of them is emotionally unstable, one of them is married and has an abusive controlling husband so I’m trying to convince her to divorce her husband, and the other one doesn’t speak english well and has never been to US or Canada before and doesn’t want to quit her job in Korea. So yeah -pretty grim choices I think, but I’m definitely more desperate now than before and really regret being as picky as I was back in 2015.
Finally – I want to go back to Canada and visit Toronto and Winnipeg again to meet my Korean/Chinese friends as well as my brother. Hoping to go sometime in the fall.
Right now, pretty depressing relationship-wise and trying to save up money..
Well, I started working again just 1 week ago, and as ever it feels so tiring commuting to the office everyday and working at a smaller company –
the demands are higher, that’s for sure, and I can’t coast like I did at Walmart anymore.
I had hoped that working at Spigit would bring me back to my glory days working at Switchfly, 2011-2013 where I had the best time of my life both
with cool coworkers and with meeting cool friends at language exchange meetup after work everyday.
But times change, and those days are gone now. Meetups aren’t the same anymore. SF became way more gentrified now, there’s way more guys here than girls, and very few Korean students are here compared to before. Yeah, I’m working at a small tech company downtown again, but everything else has changed.
All my friends went back to Korea or Taiwan or Japan. One of my best friends in SF moved down to Redwood City and he works in Mountain View so I can’t see him that often anymore. I only have one good friend left in SF now and I hang out with him so much that I feel like I really need
to get away and have another friend to hang out with cause hanging out too much with just one guy isn’t good for me. I need some variety.
In Korea I was homesick about SF, but mostly homesick about going back to working a normal schedule again and not having to sleep in the daytime and live like a vampire anymore. In Korea, it was terrible for my health. Everyday I woke up at 5pm or 6pm, then went to some meetup, met some people
I probably never talk to more than once or twice, go home, I would eat fast food or instant ramen or pasta or rice at 12am and then start work at 2am, then eat again at 5am then sleep at 10am. I maintained this schedule for TWO freaking years. And never went to the doctor or hospital because I was afraid of my Korean ability and also did not have health insurance. As you can imagine, it took a toll on my health. I am definitely not as healthy as I was back in 2014.
But I knew that as lonely as I was living in Korea like a vampire, living in SF was just as lonely. It’s soul-less here. I feel like since I started working my life has become totally robotic. Every day, wake up, go to work, eat, finish work, then meet my friend for gaming or eating. On weekends its the same, gaming or eating with my one friend. And he has a gf so its not THAT bad for him, but for me its far worse since I know I have NO chance to meet a girl here this year.
When me and my friend went to Vancouver we saw a place where there was an even ratio between guys and girls, a place where Koreans actually stayed long term to work, etc. SF is different. There’s way more males here than females due to a concentration of engineers. It’s like in China, where guys outnumber girls and as you expect that kind of ratio favors women way more, making SF a much better place for girls than for guys. Whether for pricing reasons or visa difficulties or Trump or everything, there’s almost no Koreans that stay in San Francisco long term. Almost every Korean here is a student or a traveler. I hosted several Koreans and other Asians at my house as a Couchsurfing host much as I did in 2014 since I enjoyed meeting new people, but sooner or later they eventually leave since they are temporary, and once again I become lonely. There’s very few options for me anymore other than to just tough it out this year and save money to go to Vancouver next year or year after. There’s no way I can move back to Canada right now since the American dollar is so strong and I can earn literally double what I can make in Canada.
I also don’t think I’ll ever move back to Korea again. And unfortunately for Korean girls, most Korean girls that I like either have a bf already, or live/work in Korea, and don’t want to move abroad or are not interested in me or all three. Since they are so conservative especially compared to Chinese, Koreans usually stay within their own country and date their own race. This makes it very difficult for a foreigner like me. Working in Korea is so hard and most Koreans are incredibly busy due to how much they have to work, and they make very little money on top of that. So there’s pretty much no point to try to work in Korea if I can get an American job.
I can try to find a remote job again, but then I would have to risk the time difference problem and thus my health again, which I don’t want to do. What if I was a freelancer and could work my own hours in Korea? Well, that would be better, but there’s still a fundamental problem… in Korea most girls meet guys through blind dating. In Korea I never had many friends that would introduce me to girls. The main reason I believe (since I can speak Korean fairly ok for conversation) is because I couldn’t stay in Korea long term, and eventually I would go back to Canada or US. And that will always hold true. I don’t think I would ever live in Korea long term… its very difficult for me to do so since I don’t have a house or family there. And since Koreans are so conversative about moving or living abroad, basically this narrows my chances to women who: 1) I can meet either at meetup or online 2) keeps in contact with me (very difficult since in my experience 90% of girls I meet online and meetup eventually stop contacting me or become too busy or get a bf) 3) speaks decent enough English to live abroad 4) has a desire to take a risk and live abroad particularly in Vancouver/SF 5) is open minded enough and has parents that are open minded enough to date foreigners 6) has good compatibility with my interests 7) is cute/slim/feminine enough for me (most Korean girls satisfy this but just putting it out there) 8) Is interested in me enough to start a long term relationship with me
As you can imagine it is VERY difficult to find a girl that meets all those requirements, even in Korea during the 2 years I was there it was very difficult to find a girl who can satisfy all that. That’s why even if I could find a remote job, I don’t think I would live in Korea again… there’s too many challenges still meeting the right girl there. That’s why Vancouver or even Toronto are far better places for me since I wouldn’t have to change my schedule around, I eventually will have to move back there anyway since I only have a US work visa and not a green card, the Koreans there are not as busy as they are in their home country, and the Korean girls there are already “pre-filtered” in a sense (they already have a desire to live abroad since they are already there, and probably have a desire to meet foreigners as well). Of course, the downside is I would still have to find the “right” girl but I think my chances are as good as it can get if I move back to Canada. It’s not like I had good chances getting girls to like me in Korea, their home country anyways.
On a positive side note.. I did a brief overview of all my UMPC collection / gadgets! here they are:
Here’s my official explanation for why I’m so focused on Korean girls because I get asked this ALOT. I get this asked to me alot because I know that if I were Korean and I told people I only like Korean girls no one would care but because I’m a foreigner (albeit born only a few miles away from Korea) its somehow not acceptable that I only like Korean girls… I think its also because people just can’t seem to understand that Korean girls are very unique and no other girl can really replace them. Japanese girls are probably the closest approximation to them, but they are still very different from Korean girls.
So, I know its hard for Americans and Canadians to understand this so I’ve had to explain this many many times. In USA and Canada, we are used to having multiple cultures mixed so everyone is very very different from each other. In Korea, this is not the case. Because they are 99% Korean, the culture is very homogeneous, meaning Koreans are very similar to each other, the way they are raised, taught, what they dress like, how they act etc. Now I’m not saying that every Korean is the same – but there is definitely more of an air of conformity in Korea than in other countries.
Now – something else that’s important – Koreans, Chinese, Japanese, etc are all very different from each other. Its easy to group them all as “Asian girls” but in reality after having traveled to each of those countries and lived there, they are all very different from each other. In particular, Chinese are about as different from Koreans as Americans are from Koreans. This makes Koreans wholly unique from other Asians, and other people, because their culture is unique.
So a girl’s personality and what she likes is exactly what I like! My point is if she is raised in Korea – then she has the cultural values, politeness, way of thinking – those values that I appreciate and like. Essentially being raised in Korea gives me and her a set of common interests, shared cultural values, and a matching personality.
So its not that I only like Korean girls or girls that look Korean else I would be interested in Korean Americans which I am not.
I am interested in girls who have that same personality, way of thinking, and upbringing that Korea has, thats my preference. If a Chinese girl or Japanese girl grew up in Korea and had those values sure I would be interested. Its not about what race they are, its about the cultural values they represent, and I just happened to really like Korean cultural values. I hope that makes sense.
So I called my mom yesterday because there were so few Korean girls in SF and I was so lonely and anxious to meet someone since I am getting older, and I got very upset when she started pushing me towards alternatives to Korean women just like a lot of my friends did. My friends and family don’t understand – I didn’t choose to be only attracted to Korean women, why would I choose that for myself? it makes it harder for me to find a gf. I never chose to be “close-minded” like they said. I would gladly date other Asian girls or American girls – if they satisfied what I was looking for in my ideal girl. It just so happens that everything I want in my ideal gf is 100% fully satisfied by Korean women – they are attractive to me in every way, appearance, personality, style, fashion, pretty much everything. And non-Korean women just don’t attract me the same way. I don’t why people keep trying to push me to other “alternatives”. To me, there is no alternative to Korean girls. They are unique, special and cannot be replaced. To me, thats the only option, after having traveled the world, I can honestly say no other women attract me the same way. In Taiwan and Eastern Europe I always thought the prettiest girls there were the Korean girl tourists…
Also another reason I don’t want a Chinese gf is partly because of how my mom is – raised in Northeast China (oddly, very close to Korea) yet Northern Chinese girls have the opposite personality of Korean girls – they are super strong and independent. My mom is no different. When I was young she would constantly fight with my dad. I always heard them hitting each other and my mom throwing things at my dad when I was young. I was of course also beaten by my parents as a kid as well. I don’t like how Chinese women raise their kids – they are super strict Tiger moms. Korean moms don’t treat their kids with as much strictness and I certainly have never heard of any Korean mom beating their kids. I also have never heard of Korean moms physically fighting with their husbands – it seems in Korea the man usually has the temper and the wife’s job is to calm him down whereas in China its the opposite.
I also don’t like that Chinese including my mom and aunt are so arrogant about themselves – they keep saying that Chinese women are more beautiful than Korean women – when they’ve never been to Korea or met Korean girls before! Same with my Chinese friends both guys and girls – those who have never been to Korea, they all believe that Chinese girls are the best looking. I can honestly say that easily the worst looking women, in Korea or not, that I have ever seen were Chinese women. Why? because they don’t care about their appearance! And their personality is too strong – my Mom says thats a good thing – of course she would since she wants to validate her own personality – but thats just totally not my type. If you want to be arrogant and call yourself the best – why not prove it? Why not put at least an ounce of attention on your appearance instead of just making a blanket generalizing statement like that? I got pissed when I heard that because I know its totally not true, and I even did a video on my youtube to dispel rumors that Korean girls are only pretty because of plastic surgery or some BS like that I hear from non-Korean girls who are clearly jealous of them. My best friends gf is Korean and she said these words to me. “If you come to my area of China, you will see so many beautiful girls, like me” and “If you don’t care what your kids look like, then you should marry a Korean girl” just such blatant ignorant and arrogant comments. Whats more is that Chinese women seem to have such negative impressions of Korean girls despite most of them not knowing any Korean girls at all while most of Korean girl friends seem to have positive impressions of Chinese girls. They always say ‘Chinese girls are quite beautiful, nice etc’. Just goes to show you the difference between how they think about each other.
And of course, its not just appearance – some of the rudest and most selfish girls I have ever met are – you guessed it – Chinese! So yes, clearly they are not the women for me – I know its because China had a glorious history and maybe 400 years ago they were ‘ahead’ of Korea and Japan, but that doesn’t mean they are ahead in the present! Its like the British saying they are better than Americans because they once had the bigger empire. It makes no sense in the present day – I’ve been to every East Asian country now except for Mongolia, and I can say that Japan and Korea are much more ahead of China in technology, manners, etiquette, cleanliness, etc But whatever Chinese people can keep thinking that they are the greatest if they want to – to me they are the USA of Asia – arrogant, and ignorant of other cultures.
In general, since I was born in China, raised in a Chinese family, had mostly Chinese friends in university, but hung out with Koreans a lot and lived in Korea for 2 years, here are the main differences between Chinese and Korean women:
1) Chinese women usually don’t wear any makeup and if they do, its very light. – Korean women usually wear a lot of makeup especially foundation to make their skin really pale and white.
2) Chinese women don’t care about their fashion that much, they usually wear sweaters, pants or jeans or long dresses and dress very casually. – Korean women are much more feminine and wear blouses, skirts, dresses, high heels, platform shoes etc very often
3) A lot of Chinese women don’t shave or do their eyebrows or paint their nails. – Korean women do all of those.
4) A lot of Chinese women don’t shower everyday. They will shower only when they know their bfs are coming over – Korean women shower at least twice a day and are clean enough to the point where they will carry a toothbrush + paste in their handbags throughout the day.
5) Chinese women like to brag about how beautiful their race is, how ‘naturally’ pretty Chinese women are and how great their country and culture is. – Korean women are also proud of their country but they don’t openly brag about it, and they don’t think they are the prettiest women.
6) Chinese women care a lot about money, making money, starting businesses and carrying status symbols around like iPhones and expensive cars. – Korean women don’t care as much about money or business or about brand name items.
7) Chinese women don’t have good manners and will often talk very loudly. – Korean women are more quiet and will cover their mouths when they laugh, etc
8) Chinese women make their bfs buy things for them all the time and often times make their bfs basically be pack mules for them when they are shopping. – Korean women don’t expect expensive gifts from their bfs often just flowers or chocolate will do, and they don’t make their bfs carry their bags either. Have you ever seen a Korean guy hold his gf’s bags for her?
9) Chinese women in general are not as sweet or loving to their bf or husband. They usually have more pictures of their dog than they do with their bf. – Korean women are very sweet and loving to their bfs, often take couple pictures together, hold on to their bf’s arms when they are walking and text or call their bfs all the time.
10) Chinese women are not loyal or dedicated to their race. Proof of this is how many of them are marrying Korean guys these days, ironically. They are more likely to marry outside their race. – Korean women’s #1 choice for marriage is always Korean men. I have never met a Korean girl who would not at least consider their race for dating or marriage. They rarely marry outside their race.
11) Chinese women expect the man to do everything around the house like cooking and cleaning. – Korean women will not expect this since in Korean culture the women usually do that while the man works. Proof of this is that there’s no housewives in China whereas in Korea there’s lots of housewives.
12) Chinese women think Korean women are ‘fake’ because they wear makeup or do plastic surgery, a huge irony considering how many Chinese women photoshop their pictures online or go to Korea to do surgery. – Korean women have better opinions of Chinese women they often praise Chinese women for being beautiful. This is coming from girls who have never met the other race but goes a long way to show their differences in personality.
13) Chinese women think the key to raising their children well is to be Tiger moms – raise them as strict as possible and give them a good beating once in a while if they fall out of line. – Korean women are not Tiger moms and treat their children with love and respect.
14) Chinese women are very strong and independent and will often boss men around. – Korean women are more dependent, gentle, soft and sweeter to their bfs, husbands and men in general.
Now onto the second part of my post…
A couple things happened in the past few weeks that really put a dent into my plans to move to Vancouver / find a Korean girlfriend.
1) President Trump said that he would renegotiate NAFTA and is clamping down on immigration
2) I got laid off at Walmart
Yes thats right, so I’m out of a job right now. And yes it came suddenly because our whole team at Walmart Grocery was basically duped into believing there would be a future for us, and then I got a meeting invite with the engineering head and just like that our whole team got canned. It sucks, but what makes it worse is that Walmart was the last big company to allow remote work.
So now I have to find a smaller company or startup that allows for remote work, so its definitely not going to be as easy as before. What’s more, the uncertainty around Trump means my TN visa could possibly not even exist a few months from now, and the H1B visa will also go through additional restrictions and/or scrutiny.
I don’t really want to stay in SF more, for the reasons being that SF is way too gentrified and there’s too many engineers, too few women, and not enough things to do. If I was married or had a girlfriend I could be fine here, but as a single guy in his late 20s, time is running short and I can’t stay here for a long time and see my plans for starting a family get wasted here.
Moving back to Canada is also painful because the salary in Toronto and Vancouver for IT jobs is less than half what I make now, in USD. I’d be taking a 50% pay cut for moving back.
So basically I have a few ways to go from now on:
Plan A) Find a remote job here in California, rent out my apartment, and work remotely from Vancouver. This is the best option, if I can find a good remote job. This way I can get California salary + rental income and still be in Canada. I can stay in California until I save up enough money to buy a place in Vancouver without getting another mortgage.
Plan B) Find a regular job here in SF. This plan probably gives me the highest salary, but I’ll have to put up with living in SF for a few years more. I can buy a place in Vancouver without getting another mortgage, but since Vancouver laws means I get taxed on empty places, I’ll have to rent out that place immediately after buying.
Plan C) Rent out my apartment, and find a regular job in Vancouver. This is a last resort option, since I make the least salary with this option, but it will work regardless of Trump’s decisions on work visas since I don’t need a work visa to rent out my place. I will need to take out a mortgage to buy that Vancouver place though.
So yes, the plan is in order from A to C, with C being the last resort option if Trump does any radical changes with the TN or H1-B visa. Plan A is preferable, but also the hardest since it requires finding a good remote job, which there isn’t many of.
For now, we’ll see what happens… hopefully things dont have to change too much. And yes, moving back to Korea is pretty much out of the question since I have no plans to buy property in Korea and thus have to spend more money paying rent, plus work additional hours due to Korean work culture..