Oh I have many, this has caused many of my friends to avoid talking to me about certain issues, here are just a few controversial opinions that I have:
- I think men and woman are fundamentally different and I don’t think traditional gender roles are a bad thing. I think that just like with other animals, human males and females were designed to perform different tasks. Males performing the more labor intensive and hands on work and females performing more service oriented work. I don’t think that we should force some ‘diversity’ quota onto some industries to force men and women to do what they are not good at naturally doing.
- Playboys are not misogynists. The definition of misogyny means the hatred of women. Playboys are quite the opposite – they love women, they don’t hate them. I don’t like it when so many people misuse the word ‘misogynist/misogyny’ like ‘that guy goes to clubs every night to bang women! he’s a misogynist!’ that’s not the right way to use that word. A misogynist would be for example a serial killer or rapist that specifically targets women because he blamed women for all of his life’s troubles. That’s a misogynist. James Bond or Casanova? not misogynists. Hope people can understand this difference.
- Also, diversity quotas / affirmative action are a form of discrimination. There I said it for what it is.
- Western people’s lives do not matter more than others. But, we treat it as if it does matter more. It’s true. Tragic events like 9/11 or the Paris ISIS attack get TONS of news coverage – because they happened in the West. Nobody cares about suicide bombings in the Middle East, Earthquakes in China or famine in Africa that kill an order of magnitude more because those people do not matter as much as Westerners. And you might be saying ‘but that’s because you live in a Western country that’s why you see more news coverage of Western incidents’ no that’s not really true, even in non Western countries, Western incidents get more coverage, sometimes even more than domestic events. People around the world know when a terrorist attack or a mass shooting occurs in the US or other Western country. The reverse is not true. When that happens in Asia/Africa/Middle East it gets pretty much no coverage in Western countries.
- I think every state should have Romeo and Juliet laws. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a college student having sex with a high school student. The age gap is not that big. Most people think of a 21 year old having sex with a 17 year old and think that’s pedophilia or that he’s sexually ‘preying’ on her, just because she’s under 18 and he’s over 18. That’s ridiculous. It’s a 4 year gap. He could have been dating her as a senior when she was a freshman. A 50 year old dating a 25 year old is way more creepy and that’s legally allowed. Pedophilia is when a 50 year old preys on a 10 year old. That’s pedophilia. but a college student dating a high school student is the same kind of monster? It’s not the same. Also, the argument that 16 or 17 year olds aren’t ‘mature’ enough to have sex is ridiculous, they already seen tons of sex in movies and tv, that’s the age they just passed puberty and are sexually curious, and already can drive cars and in some states handle handguns. And then when they turn 18 they are magically mature enough to have sex now? a 1–2 year difference? That’s just silly.
- There’s nothing wrong with sex in video games and movies. I honestly think it’s ridiculous how Americans censor sex in so many forms of media and entertainment but they have so much violence in those same media. What’s more normal, killing someone, chopping someone’s head off – or having sex? Now which scenes are the ones to get censored? Japanese hentai games? All censored in the West. Porn? Yeah we don’t talk about that. But we have movies like SAW which are insanely violent and games like Last of Us 2 which have us murdering everyone we come across in long drawn out death sequences. Sex is a normal thing that all human beings do. I don’t understand why it’s considered so taboo in society.
- Women who abandon their babies are not necessarily monsters. You got to hear me out on this one. Women are allowed to get abortion in most developed countries in the world now. Are they cold blooded killers? But let’s say you are not able to get an abortion for whatever reason, maybe it’s still illegal in their country, and you know many irresponsible men in the world do not use protection, so when a woman gets pregnant what can she really do? If abortion is illegal and she was too young or struggling financially? What can she do at that point? She has to give birth and then what can she do with the baby? If she has no money? I may be a guy but I can’t imagine being put in that situation ,which is all too common. There’s many many instances where some asshole accidentally impregnates a girl and then runs away from that responsibility and leaves the woman to deal with it herself. There’s little the woman can do at that point.
- The majority of people are tribal and think in black and white, as if everyone belongs on either one side or the other. I’ve debated a lot of people on Quora and on social media, Facebook, Twitter etc. This is what thing I’ve noticed, that most people are very tribal and will always take one side or the other and assume that if you aren’t on their side then you must be on the other one, which comes along with a whole bunch of other assumptions. They don’t believe in gray areas.
-For example, in American politics, they think that if you don’t like Trump then you must be a socialist liberal gun hating Democrat, and if you don’t like Obama then you must be the opposite – a conservative gun loving Republican.
-In basketball, people believe that if you are a fan of Michael Jordan then you cannot be a fan of Lebron James. You have to be either a Jordan fan or a Lebron fan but you cannot be both. And both sides are dedicated to making ‘hate’ posts trying to convince the other side about who is better.
-talking with mainland Chinese people, they believe that if you don’t support the CCP and China / support HK protestors / support Taiwanese independence then that automatically means you must love the USA, love democracy, was brainwashed by Western media, must support Trump and US policies, and (in my case because I’m of Chinese ethnicity) that I’m a traitor because I didn’t support the country where my blood comes from. Also that every Western country = same as USA. And on the other side, if you like China and the CCP then that means you automatically hate US, hate democracy, think Taiwan is a part of China etc
see where I am going with this? a large portion of people love generalizing and assuming things about others merely based on a single viewpoint and extrapolate that to a whole array of assumptions. This is not how the world works. The real world is a lot more gray than this. You can’t just assume so many things based on one piece of information.
I am neither a Democrat or a Republican. I’m neither liberal or conservative. I like both Jordan and Lebron. I don’t love the USA and I don’t love China. I’m an example of a person who’s firmly ‘gray’ in many many areas but people love to assume things about me depending on my viewpoint. Case in point is an answer I wrote about ‘things I dislike about Korea’ caused some commenters to mention bad things about China – as if saying negative things about Korea meant that I was somehow a CCP supporter, then in another topic where I said I preferred to live in Korea compared to Japan and China, commenters called me a ‘koreaboo’ and in a lot of my answers in the China topic where I talked about you can’t generalize HK protestors to be all terrorists or about Taiwan being ruled by a separate government, I was viciously attacked by Chinese commenters who told me I was a traitor to my country, that I was brainwashed by Western media, must have experienced racism when I was young (because we all know that everyone who has actually gone to China loves it there right? You can’t possibly have negative opinions of China unless Americans brainwashed you to) and that I ‘loved’ the USA or Trump. I had never said a single thing about America! and they assumed all these things about me.