What are your most controversial or unpopular opinions?

Oh I have many, this has caused many of my friends to avoid talking to me about certain issues, here are just a few controversial opinions that I have:

  1. I think men and woman are fundamentally different and I don’t think traditional gender roles are a bad thing. I think that just like with other animals, human males and females were designed to perform different tasks. Males performing the more labor intensive and hands on work and females performing more service oriented work. I don’t think that we should force some ‘diversity’ quota onto some industries to force men and women to do what they are not good at naturally doing.
  2. Playboys are not misogynists. The definition of misogyny means the hatred of women. Playboys are quite the opposite – they love women, they don’t hate them. I don’t like it when so many people misuse the word ‘misogynist/misogyny’ like ‘that guy goes to clubs every night to bang women! he’s a misogynist!’ that’s not the right way to use that word. A misogynist would be for example a serial killer or rapist that specifically targets women because he blamed women for all of his life’s troubles. That’s a misogynist. James Bond or Casanova? not misogynists. Hope people can understand this difference.
  3. Also, diversity quotas / affirmative action are a form of discrimination. There I said it for what it is.
  4. Western people’s lives do not matter more than others. But, we treat it as if it does matter more. It’s true. Tragic events like 9/11 or the Paris ISIS attack get TONS of news coverage – because they happened in the West. Nobody cares about suicide bombings in the Middle East, Earthquakes in China or famine in Africa that kill an order of magnitude more because those people do not matter as much as Westerners. And you might be saying ‘but that’s because you live in a Western country that’s why you see more news coverage of Western incidents’ no that’s not really true, even in non Western countries, Western incidents get more coverage, sometimes even more than domestic events. People around the world know when a terrorist attack or a mass shooting occurs in the US or other Western country. The reverse is not true. When that happens in Asia/Africa/Middle East it gets pretty much no coverage in Western countries.
  5. I think every state should have Romeo and Juliet laws. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a college student having sex with a high school student. The age gap is not that big. Most people think of a 21 year old having sex with a 17 year old and think that’s pedophilia or that he’s sexually ‘preying’ on her, just because she’s under 18 and he’s over 18. That’s ridiculous. It’s a 4 year gap. He could have been dating her as a senior when she was a freshman. A 50 year old dating a 25 year old is way more creepy and that’s legally allowed. Pedophilia is when a 50 year old preys on a 10 year old. That’s pedophilia. but a college student dating a high school student is the same kind of monster? It’s not the same. Also, the argument that 16 or 17 year olds aren’t ‘mature’ enough to have sex is ridiculous, they already seen tons of sex in movies and tv, that’s the age they just passed puberty and are sexually curious, and already can drive cars and in some states handle handguns. And then when they turn 18 they are magically mature enough to have sex now? a 1–2 year difference? That’s just silly.
  6. There’s nothing wrong with sex in video games and movies. I honestly think it’s ridiculous how Americans censor sex in so many forms of media and entertainment but they have so much violence in those same media. What’s more normal, killing someone, chopping someone’s head off – or having sex? Now which scenes are the ones to get censored? Japanese hentai games? All censored in the West. Porn? Yeah we don’t talk about that. But we have movies like SAW which are insanely violent and games like Last of Us 2 which have us murdering everyone we come across in long drawn out death sequences. Sex is a normal thing that all human beings do. I don’t understand why it’s considered so taboo in society.
  7. Women who abandon their babies are not necessarily monsters. You got to hear me out on this one. Women are allowed to get abortion in most developed countries in the world now. Are they cold blooded killers? But let’s say you are not able to get an abortion for whatever reason, maybe it’s still illegal in their country, and you know many irresponsible men in the world do not use protection, so when a woman gets pregnant what can she really do? If abortion is illegal and she was too young or struggling financially? What can she do at that point? She has to give birth and then what can she do with the baby? If she has no money? I may be a guy but I can’t imagine being put in that situation ,which is all too common. There’s many many instances where some asshole accidentally impregnates a girl and then runs away from that responsibility and leaves the woman to deal with it herself. There’s little the woman can do at that point.
  8. The majority of people are tribal and think in black and white, as if everyone belongs on either one side or the other. I’ve debated a lot of people on Quora and on social media, Facebook, Twitter etc. This is what thing I’ve noticed, that most people are very tribal and will always take one side or the other and assume that if you aren’t on their side then you must be on the other one, which comes along with a whole bunch of other assumptions. They don’t believe in gray areas.

    -For example, in American politics, they think that if you don’t like Trump then you must be a socialist liberal gun hating Democrat, and if you don’t like Obama then you must be the opposite – a conservative gun loving Republican.

    -In basketball, people believe that if you are a fan of Michael Jordan then you cannot be a fan of Lebron James. You have to be either a Jordan fan or a Lebron fan but you cannot be both. And both sides are dedicated to making ‘hate’ posts trying to convince the other side about who is better.

    -talking with mainland Chinese people, they believe that if you don’t support the CCP and China / support HK protestors / support Taiwanese independence then that automatically means you must love the USA, love democracy, was brainwashed by Western media, must support Trump and US policies, and (in my case because I’m of Chinese ethnicity) that I’m a traitor because I didn’t support the country where my blood comes from. Also that every Western country = same as USA. And on the other side, if you like China and the CCP then that means you automatically hate US, hate democracy, think Taiwan is a part of China etc

    see where I am going with this? a large portion of people love generalizing and assuming things about others merely based on a single viewpoint and extrapolate that to a whole array of assumptions. This is not how the world works. The real world is a lot more gray than this. You can’t just assume so many things based on one piece of information.

    I am neither a Democrat or a Republican. I’m neither liberal or conservative. I like both Jordan and Lebron. I don’t love the USA and I don’t love China. I’m an example of a person who’s firmly ‘gray’ in many many areas but people love to assume things about me depending on my viewpoint. Case in point is an answer I wrote about ‘things I dislike about Korea’ caused some commenters to mention bad things about China – as if saying negative things about Korea meant that I was somehow a CCP supporter, then in another topic where I said I preferred to live in Korea compared to Japan and China, commenters called me a ‘koreaboo’ and in a lot of my answers in the China topic where I talked about you can’t generalize HK protestors to be all terrorists or about Taiwan being ruled by a separate government, I was viciously attacked by Chinese commenters who told me I was a traitor to my country, that I was brainwashed by Western media, must have experienced racism when I was young (because we all know that everyone who has actually gone to China loves it there right? You can’t possibly have negative opinions of China unless Americans brainwashed you to) and that I ‘loved’ the USA or Trump. I had never said a single thing about America! and they assumed all these things about me.

What is your opinion about China and Chinese people?

I guess I come from the unique perspective of having been to all the East Asian countries (China, Taiwan, Japan, Korea) and my feelings about China has changed because of this. Roughly 30% of my friends are Chinese and 40% Korean.

Before I lived in Korea, I was in China for a few months, visiting such places as Beijing, Shanghai, Nanjing, Suzhou, Hangzhou.

My impressions are that North China has really bad air.. and although Beijing has lots of history, it just wasn’t as interesting to me as Central and South China were. In contrast, Shanghai was probably the most modern city in China, and Suzhou and Hangzhou had some of the most beautiful natural scenery I’ve experienced.

I had lots of (mainland) Chinese friends in university, and also met Chinese people in China of course.

I feel that my feelings for Chinese people changed a lot after I met Japanese, Koreans and Taiwanese after I graduated university and started working and traveling to other Asian countries.

After having visited Japan and Taiwan and living in Korea for 2 years, here’s my observations:

-China is a great place for traveling and still has some of the most naturally beautiful places in the world.

-China is a massively diverse country full of different races and cultures

-Chinese food is very different from American Chinese food

-Chinese people are very blunt; For example they do not hesitate to mince words on anything really. Korea/Taiwan/Japan tend to soften their words in order not to offend people too much, but Chinese just straight up say whatever is on their mind. This is often taken as ‘harshness’ or ‘rude’ by other countries but I think this is just their culture.

-China has way better gender equality than any of its surrounding countries. And the women act very different from Korean/Japanese/Taiwanese women. They are less traditionally feminine, more assertive, more ambitious, and in a lot of cases can actually be more dominant than the men. It’s almost a role reversal compared to other countries, lol. It’s better in China to be a girl. Everything is paid for by the guys. The guys are pretty subservient to their gfs. The groom’s family pays for the wedding, not the bride. And because of the skewed gender ratio, girls have the pick of the litter. Pretty big contrast to Korea/Japan where its pretty much the opposite. Heres a nice graphic that is based on the stereotypes:

-Chinese people are very prideful about their country, and more uniquely is how prideful they are about the specific region where they are from. A lot of times I would hear not’ Chinese ___ is the best’ but rather ‘Sichuan ___ is the best’ or ‘Beijing ___ is the best’ or ‘Shanghai __ is the best’. They like to boast a lot, and its not hard to see that they are biased in favor of China and their region on a lot of issues. It’s not so different from USA where Americans boast about their country too, but it is different from Taiwan/Japan/Korea where I don’t really hear them boasting about their country that often. Chinese people are not really aware of the culture differences between their country and Japan/Korea/Taiwan either, but that’s a forgivable point I suppose considering most Chinese have not been outside their country before.

-Chinese people seem to put a lot of faith into their government. I’ve seen them use extreme cases to justify certain questionable government decisions. For example, banning foreign websites: Foreigners think its extremely limiting to freedom but Chinese people think its a good thing because it protects their domestic industry. censoring sex/violence in entertainment: Foreigners think its extreme, Chinese people think that having sex/violence in entertainment will lead to people becoming depraved criminals. censoring social media: Foreigners think it limits freedom, Chinese people think having a free social media is too crazy and chaotic and unstable. The government makes them wear ugly track outfits for school. Foreigners think Korean/Japanese school uniforms look better. Chinese people think its distracts them from studying and looks too sexy. Chinese people seem to place a premium on stability and harmony over freedom and flexibility, I think.

-Japan is Tang Chinese culture, Korea is Ming Chinese culture, Taiwan is ROC culture, and China is its own culture. I find China the most westernized in culture out of all of them. For example, China is the least traditionally Confucist out of those countries, they have mostly done away with traditional ceremonies, religion, outfits (Chinese rarely wear Qipao compared to Japan’s Kimono or Korea’s Hanbok), and their fashion style is more similar to Westerners (i.e casual style) than to Koreans or Japanese. Perhaps this isn’t surprising since China underwent massive revolutions compared to those other countries.

-Most Chinese are clean, nice and polite, but perhaps not to the same extent as Taiwan, Korea or Japan. My ranking of cleanliness / politeness in general is Japanese (TOO polite to a fault) > Taiwan > Korea > China.

-Censorship. This is more of a problem for foreigners than native residents, but just be aware that unlike Japan/Korea/Taiwan, you need to use a VPN to use most sites in China, and they censor violent/sexual content. Too much so, IMO.

-Cost of living. Beijing, Shanghai and Tokyo are in the top tier of expensive cities to live in the world. In smaller Chinese cities, it is much cheaper. Seoul is a tier cheaper than those cities, and Taipei has the lowest cost of living amongst all the major capitals.

-China has the most job opportunities, and the best place to start a company, by far. Shenzhen and Beijing are economic powerhouses for IT. Korea’s job market is too competitive (there’s a reason why they have #1 suicide rate), Japan’s economy is stagnant and Taiwan’s economy is also stagnant. If you are looking for work as a foreigner, China is the best.

– Safety wise, all East Asian countries are safer than America. No comparison really. Very few mass shootings and gun murders if at all. In China you do have to be more careful of scams and thieves but its still relatively safe. In terms of safety I rank like this: Japan (zero gun deaths a year. seriously.) > Korea/Taiwan > China

-Technology. Again, ALL of these countries have great technology. Japan is famous for its tech companies, robots and micro electronics (Sony, Canon, Fujitsu, Toshiba, Panasonic, Nintendo, etc too many to list). Taiwan is the #1 maker of computer hardware with such names as Asus, Acer, HTC, Gigabyte, MSI etc. Korea is home to electronic giants Samsung and LG. China doesn’t have the brand cache of those other companies but they are improving! Huawei, Lenovo, Xiaomi, ZTE are some of the companies that are rapidly catching up to Japan and Korea!

-Religion wise, because of China’s communist past, religion is pretty much banned, most Chinese are atheist. Taiwan and Japan are mostly Buddhist. Korea is uniquely a Christian country, perhaps relating to how socially conservative they are.

In general I think it really depends what you want but China has its pros and cons. I did a comparison between China and other East Asian countries because I feel that this is a unique perspective I can contribute to, if others are interested. I would say work opportunity, diversity and natural beauty China is #1. Japan for the super polite / clean culture with a unique flavor. Korea is a mix of Japan and China but is also the most socially conservative and traditionally Confucist out of all them. Taiwan is much smaller than any of those countries but is a mix of Japanese and Chinese culture. I almost want to say they are Chinese people but with the manners of Japanese people.

Let me know in the comments if I am missing any comparison.

Edit: I have a lot of mainlanders commenting about the status of Taiwan. Taiwan is not controlled by the PRC. I don’t care if you think its a province or not or it belongs to China it is NOT controlled by PRC. The government of Taiwan is the ROC. Whether the UN recognizes it as a country or not doesn’t matter here. Xi Jinping is not Taiwan’s leader. Taiwanese elect their government and receive different education from mainland. These are facts and NOT up for debate. I do not tolerate ignorance and misinformation so I disabled the comments.


Response to recent Google employee’s memo..

As many people on the internet know, a few days ago a Google employee’s internal memo was leaked out.. and there has been a big fuss about it.
Not only was there so much hate on that guy, claiming that he was ‘misogynist’ and ‘male chauvinist’ but his name and picture were actually leaked by the press as well! If this wasn’t character assassination and defamation I don’t know what is.

So, I’ve actually read the memo, and while I disagree with portions of it, for the most part I agree with him. My opinion is not a popular one in the liberal majority Silicon Valley. But I can assure you there is nothing that sexist / misogynist about what he wrote. First off, people should stop using that term so frequently because it literally means someone who hates women. This memo does not come off to me as someone who hates women. The main point he was getting across is that 1. conservatives are discriminated against in the tech industry and 2. Women’s biological differences with men are the reason why there aren’t as many women in the tech industry

His first point is actually true, since Google promptly fired him after that memo leaked. As a private company they have all the right to do that, but it goes to show what happens when you have an unpopular conservative opinion in a sea of liberal opinions. Yes he had freedom of speech, but in the end if he violated Google’s code of conduct they had every right to fire him. I just don’t think it was fair since his opinion was actually quite valid.

Secondly, as an Engineer I am usually very skeptical of claims unless they are backed by science. I don’t believe in conspiracy theories like area 51 / aliens or chemtrails or 9/11 theories or moon landing hoax theories or stuff like that. I don’t believe in superstitions like Feng Shui or chinese medicine (pseudoscience) or go to tarot readers or astrologists since I don’t believe in the supernatural. I don’t believe in ghosts or monsters. I DO believe in global warming, because that’s backed up by science.
Now, while this is very hard to prove by science, it is actually common sense to everyone that men and women are not the same. Our bodies are built very differently. Our brains are wired very differently. There is a gender difference in humans just like there is in every other animal. That is quite easy to accept. So I don’t understand what is so misogynist or hard to understand that differences in the way each gender thinks is the reason why certain genders perform certain roles?? Being different is good. There’s nothing wrong with being different. If people really want a society where men and women are treated exactly the same, I would recommend those people to move to a communist society. Perfect gender equality there.

Men usually perform roles with physical labor like construction or mining, or roles that involve analytical thinking like mathematics, science or engineering. That is not to say women can’t do those roles, but definitely men have a dominant advantage in those roles. Women on the other hand, are much better at serving and caring for people. That’s why women tend to be clerks, cashiers, customer service reps, broadcasters, receptionists, nurses, etc. They are better suited for those positions than men. There is nothing misogynist or women-hating about this train of thought, this is the way that I feel after looking at other animal species and interacting with humans. Male lions don’t ask female lions to do the same task, they each have their own responsibilities. So why is it so unacceptable for humans to be the same? Even in engineer crazy India and China, there are more males than females in engineering. They have no reason to discriminate against women there (Asians are notorious for pushing that field onto all their children), yet there are still more males. Why? because men and women’s brains are different, that’s why. Its not hard to understand why. Anyone who’s been in a relationship before can tell you that women’s minds are way more emotionally complex than a man’s mind.

Because people like to be social justice warriors. They like to think that taking the stance that women are the victims of social constructs, that women can do anything men can do, and somehow that will make others think of them as better people and supporting gender equality more. Its total nonsense, just like third-wave feminism. I support equal pay for equal work and gender equality, but I do so while acknowledging that men and women have different roles in society. People are just fooling themselves, they are denying science and biology because ironically, they are the victims of the liberal social construct, the very social constructs that they fight against. Do they also believe that social constructs are the reason why men can run faster and jump higher than women can? The liberal echo chamber of the Bay Area puts pressure on people to care or think about minorities, disabled, women, etc to help anyone who’s “oppressed” historically, even if it goes against science or what they actually believe. This is unfortunate, and the firing of this man for his memo (which is personal btw it wasn’t meant to be leaked), just goes to show that if you do not reflect this liberal echo chamber, then you will be punished for it in America. Those are just my 2 cents on this issue.

tldr; I’m not a misogynist, I’m for gender equality, but I also believe men and women are biologically different and that makes them better at certain positions for each gender. This is backed by science and I support it.