What do non-Koreans dislike about Korean culture and Korean people?

1. Racism
I wish Koreans would stop worshipping white people and treating white people different than other foreigners. Black people, Hispanics, and other non-Korean Asians all get treated differently, or “lower” than white people get treated and this is an issue common to most Asian countries I think. Because of Hollywood and history, white people get looked up upon and Koreans think of themselves as “better” than other Asians.

2. Citizenship
Its very difficult for a foreigner to become a Korean citizen. There’s really only a few ways, either marry a Korean national, have Korean heritage but live abroad, invest $5m into the Korean economy, or become a Korean cultural ambassador. So for the majority of us foreigners the only reliable option is to marry a Korean, which I’m not opposed to, but its difficult meeting a girl to marry when you can’t live here permanently. And you have to marry to live here permanently. Working here for any amount of time doesn’t cut it.

3. Online security
Doing anything online, buying tickets for a movie, getting internet, going to naver cafes, online shopping, transferring money to a bank account, getting a cellphone contract etc all requires a Korean resident number (only Korean citizens have that), or requires an Foreigner ID card (only foreigners with a work permit have that). So if you are living in Korea short term like me, good luck getting those things online. Its a major headache and hassle.

4. Work culture
The work culture in Korea is very strict. You have to follow what your boss tells you do and can’t talk back. You can’t leave work until your boss does. You have to go drinking with your boss if he tells you do. Overtime and Weekend work is normal. That’s why I don’t to work for a Korean company. But they have to get with the times and change these rules. Its way too strict and hinders intellectual and career development. Also, you’re encouraged to stay with the same company to show your loyalty. These rules are pretty different than Chinese work culture where there is more freedom of movement.

5. Gender equality
the recent murder of a girl in Gangnam by a guy who hated women prompted some people to talk about gender equality and misogynists in Korea. But unlike in America, where girls complain about sexism in every single thing imaginable, in Korea its very real.

There is a 30% work pay gap between Korean women and men, and that is the highest gap in the OECD. Korean women are pressured to look pretty all the time, and some have to get plastic surgery to find a job. They are discriminated against if they get pregnant while on the job and can be dismissed. In America, people can sue for this, but in Korea women are too afraid of retaliation to even try. In fact, online Korean bloggers even trying to talk about women’s rights get attacked viciously online by Korean males who don’t want women to have more rights.

In the US, there is the benefit of American males who have sympathy for feminists, but the reason why you don’t see many feminists in Korea is because its a patriarchal society, and people are afraid of retaliation and backlash, where Korean men don’t have that much sympathy for the women.

also:

-koreans spitting on the streets. seriously stop that, its disgusting

-smoking everywhere. every time i go to noraebang or a club i have to immediately change clothes because of this

-study culture. I don’t study in Korea but I feel sorry for those that do. 3am in the morning and the cafes are full of students studying. oh man..

-the religious fanatics. I don’t believe in Jesus ok, but I see these people everywhere. They even use young girls to rope people into their little cult. And its pretty much just brainwashing anyways.

Are there Korean guys as handsome as BTS or EXO in Korea?

Very very few.

I’m not saying this because I’m a guy but because in Korea, there are simply way more attractive women than men as a result of the gender inequality in the country and more focus on appearance there is more pressure for women to look good than men. Korean men don’t have to do makeup (although some do its a minority), they don’t have to wear short skirts in the winter (as Korean high school girls do) or high heels (as Korean female workers do) or do plastic surgery (as many Korean women do) or paint their nails or do any of that other stuff.

As a result, this leads to quite a few couples on the street you can see where the woman is simply way more attractive than her boyfriend/husband.

I see more ‘balanced’ attractiveness in other countries. China, Taiwan, Canada, USA etc in general the girl might be equal or prettier on average but not by a lot and in some cases uglier. In Korea, I almost never see a handsome guy with an ugly girl, its quite rare to see that.

The guys like BTS or EXO is like 1 out of 500 I think in Korea. Now, the girls like SNSD or Red Velvet or AOA something like that is more like 1 out of 50 in Korea. Just to show you the difference. Its just way more common to see a pretty girl than a handsome guy. Handsome guys in Korea as a result, can get pretty much most girls they desire. Pretty girls on the other hand, might still struggle to find a good guy.

They have much more success abroad. Most of my Korean female friends told me when they go to China or America the number of guys that hit on them go up by at least 5 times. An ‘average’ girl in Korea (who cannot get a handsome guy in Korea) would be considered quite above average in other countries, due to high appearance standards in Korea. The irony is, ‘average guys’ in Korea (who are able to get attractive girls in Korea) are not particularly more popular in other countries especially in America because American women generally don’t care about Asian men the same way American men care about Asian women.

My advice is Korean women should go abroad to find guys, while Korean men should stay in their country. They have the best chances to meet the guy/girl they want that way.

Do East Asians look down on Southeast Asians?

Yes, but its not because of any geography related thing but rather economicallyrelated. Think about it – do Americans look down on Mexicans and South Americans? Yeah, they do. They have stereotypes about them. Why? because they are poorer nations.

Where would people rather go Europe or Africa? Who would they rather associate with? Because Europe is wealthier in general than Africa is, there’s stereotypes associated with Africans too.

Same applies to East Asia and Southeast Asia. Historically SE Asia (exempting Singapore) wasn’t as economically successful or powerful as China/Korea/Japan so they were looked down upon.

Its very economically related. Just ask Koreans (probably the most racist of all East Asians) what they think about Filipinos, Taiwanese, Malaysians and Singapore. Chances are, even though Taiwan is geographically close to Phillipines and Malaysia geographically close to Singapore, they are going to see Taiwanese/Singapore people in a better light; because of economy reasons. The light/dark skin color is just something related to this. For whatever reason in history, the economically poorer nations had people with darker skin, and the wealthy and powerful nations in history had people with lighter skin. Thus people around the world, not just East Asians, tend to look up to people with fair skin and look down on people with dark skin, but not because of skin color but because of historical economic reasons associated with that skin color.