See my video below … ranted alot here
One of the things I love most about Korean people is how much they care about fashion and how they dress. Their style is IMO much better looking than American or other Asian styles that I’ve seen so far. It seems almost every Korean girl cares about appearance and how they look. For guys, a lower percentage do, but still many guys do as well. So I want to write about what I’ve seen, since I care about appearance and I often notice how both guys and girls dress and look like here. Korea is also a very homogeneous country, and also very conformist so the same style of skirt or pants that you see on one person you might see several times a day. With that said lets move on to these different styles. I’ll start with guys since there’s less to talk about with them.
Head / Face / Makeup
-Most Korean men don’t dye their hair (some do, but not as common as Korean girls do), keeping it black.
-They prefer to have the bangs go down over their forehead like the picture above.
-Medium length hair is very common (in contrast to Chinese guys who have very short spiky hair, and Japanese guys who sometimes have longer hair reaching down to their neck).
-Most Korean men don’t wear makeup (although some do, its definitely the minority).
-Maybe 50% or so of Korean men did lasik surgery or wear contacts, as Koreans in general do not like wearing glasses compared to other Asians.
-Korean men fully shave their facial hair (in contrast to other Asian men who may keep a stubble or facial hair of some sort).
-Koreans love tight clothing. One of the most common fashion styles for top-wear is to wear a collar shirt, fully buttoned, with either rolled up sleeves or exposing the arms. See above picture for example.
-Young Korean guys and girls, especially couples, love to wear striped shirts, as seen in the picture above. One reason is that they can match it easily to form couple clothing.
-For Older men and fancy occasions, a tight Blazer is a good choice for a fancy date or a good night out.
-Koreans tend not to wear ties outside of work.
These are the three most common styles of fashion for top wear that I’ve seen on Korean men.
-Skinny Jeans or Tight Khakis. Those are the most common items that I’ve seen. Keep it tight, keep it simple.
-In the summer, tight cargo shorts are very common like in the striped shirts picture above.
-Running shoes (Converse type), Loafers (like the pic above) are very common for everyday occasions.
-For fancy occasions, Oxford type or similar shoes can be worn.
-A lot of Korean guys, and me included, don’t wear socks with our shoes for casual occasions.
-Usually Korean men do not wear any hats.
-Very few guys do tattoos or piercings.
-As mentioned before maybe half of all Korean guys wear glasses. They prefer to wear oversized frames, with the shape more roundish than square (Westerners often prefer wearing square frames to round frames).
-Korean guys like to wear watches. Invest in a good classy looking mechanical watch.
This section is going be longer because women care about their appearance and fashion more, so I can’t say every kind of fashion but I will try to list the most common styles I’ve seen.
Head / Face / Makeup
-50% of Korean women dye their hair, usually to brown or reddish-brown tint.
-They don’t like to leave their hair up. Most Korean girls let their hair down.
-Hair is medium length (down to shoulders) or longer (down past the shoulders). There are very few girls who have short hair who are not in high school.
-Perm/Bleach is also fairly common.
-Almost every Korean girl wears makeup (in contrast to Chinese girls who don’t wear makeup). The typical Korean girl puts on lots of eyeliner, lots of foundation or BB Cream to make their skin look paler, slight blush on their cheeks and red lipstick, like in the picture above. They also wear fake eyelashes sometimes.
-Makeup is the single most important thing that changes a girls appearance. Most Korean girls who do plastic surgery do it to get double eyelids instead of single eyelids. But that doesn’t make as noticeable a difference as makeup does. Makeup literally makes their eyes look twice as big as before. The example above shows typical lots of eyeliner to make the eye look bigger, as well as lots of foundation and BB cream to make the skin look paler and cover up imperfections.
-Note that some girls even put makeup on other parts of their body like their legs to hide imperfections.
-Korean girls shave every part of their body, and this needs to be mentioned because some Asians like Chinese girls do NOT shave every part of their body. Yes this includes the upper lip area as well, and a lot of girls prefer to get things lasered instead, so they don’t have to deal with shaving.
-Most Korean girls paint their fingernails and/or toenails. Especially if they are wearing toe-open heels or shoes.
-Most Korean girls get braces for their teeth. (I have to mention this to contrast it to Japanese girls who are known for having crooked teeth).
-Young girls like to wear the striped shirt (as shown above)
-I cannot list all the types of blouses a Korean girl wears, but the above is an example of the type of blouse an older Korean girl would wear. They are usually very feminine and sometimes transparent to show off their arms or chest. The shoulderless shirt is another type of clothing older women wear a lot as well.
-This technically classifies as both top and bottom wear but, Korean girls love to wear dresses, and while I cannot list every single type of dress they wear, I’ve given three examples above of one piece dresses. They like to wear shoulderless types, semi-transparent types, frilly or flare bottoms, straight bottoms, etc.
-Because Korean girls think showing top or their chest is considered more sexy than showing bottom, they often cover the top of their body with a long coat or or jacket while wearing a one piece or skirt underneath.
-As I said, Korean girls love to show wear dresses and generally like to show their legs since its (for some reason) not considered sexy at all to show legs in Korea. Thus Korean girls love to wear short skirts and short shorts as well in addition to dresses.
-Once again I’m not going to list all the different types of skirts that I’ve seen, there’s too many, but there’s some common ones above. Young girls tend to wear flare skirts (or tennis skirt), while older girls wear pencil skirts or A line skirts, sometimes with slits cut in the back.
-Though not as common as the other types of dresses, sometimes Korean girls wear these transparent types of dresses with a short skirt of shorts underneath.
-Since Korean girls love to wear anything that shows their legs off, the shortest pants imaginable are called “hot pants” and often worn in the summer or going clubbing, though some girls wear them day to day. Young girls sometimes wear short exercise shorts or jean shorts. No they don’t exercise in them, they just wear it because it shows a lot of leg.
-Skinny jeans. Though they are in the minority compared to the dresses/skirts.
-While in the summer Korean girls bare their legs, in the colder months they tend to wear stockings in lieu of pants (again because they like to show their legs), either nude/transparent pantyhose or black stockings. I don’t have a picture of transparent pantyhose because, well, they just look like skin from a distance since they “skin colored”.
-Young Korean girls prefer to wear either high heeled sandals, platform shoes or running shoes (Converse or Vans is popular as several photos above attest)
-Older Korean girls wear platform shoes, high heeled shoes or stilettos (sometimes very high)
-No glasses. 90% of Korean girls don’t wear glasses (in contrast to other Asians who often do). They do lasik surgery or wear contacts instead.
-Very few girls do tattoos or non ear piercings.
-Earrings are common, but not on every girl. Some wear them, some don’t. I’ve seen about 50/50 on this.
-Necklaces also common, and also a 50/50.
-Watches also common (in contrast to Westerners who don’t commonly wear watches anymore). I’ve seen more Korean girls wear watches than not, though not as commonly as Korean men do.
-A peculiar feature of Korean fashion is the ankle bracelet. Because so many girls show their legs in Korea, they like to “spice up” their look by wearing these on their leg.
So yeah… that’s about it for now. Since Koreans care so much about appearance, I felt compelled to make this post about Korean fashion 🙂 The overall theme of Korean fashion seems to be “Neat and Clean” style and I think it looks way better than fashion in other parts of the world IMO.
These past few days have been depressing, more than usual I guess. I accidentally erased my video logs dating back to late 2013, where I would just talk to the camera about various issues at the time. I would do this at various times between 2013-present and I lost all my video logs back then since I don’t upload those to youtube and they were together on the disk with my other youtube video files so I accidentally deleted them while organizing my files.
So I had to recollect all my memories from back then and re-iterate them again. But the most disappointing part of being in Korea so far is being rejected by Korean girls, and thats the main source of my depression. I’ve been rejected by 3 girls on the first date in the last 2 months, and thats what spurring this rant today.
I have posted several times last year about how hard it was to get a Korean girl to like me, and in my total 2 years in Korea I’ve only had 2 girls that have been my official girlfriend, for a total of only about 4 months. Out of 24 months, the other 20 months I’ve been single. I’ve been on many dates, but for some reason the girl always rejects me or loses interest after the first date. I’m not sure what I did wrong. I pay for girls, I treat them nicely, I talk to her about her interests, etc I don’t understand what I am doing wrong on the first date.
The problem is for foreigners, we don’t have that many ways to meet Korean girls. Most couples that I see on the street, those Korean couples met through blind dating, they had a friend or coworker introduce them. Because I never went to school here or work for a Korean company, I don’t have anyone to introduce me. My Korean friends’ friends all already have a boyfriend or they don’t date foreign guys (xenophobic society I know). Thus we can meet girls only through a few ways, either going to club or bar or picking up girls through “hunting”, using meetups or language exchange apps or sites, or going to church.
I don’t like to do “hunting” as my personality is totally unfit for it, and its hard to change my personality. Meeting girls at church could be my last resort, but I’m not religious in any way. Using language exchange apps or sites have been the primary way for me to meet girls so far, and out of those girls I’ve met, 70% of them text me for a few days and then eventually stop texting or responding after that. the remaining 30% that are willing to meet me, about 90% of them are only interested in language exchange. So you can imagine how difficult it is to meet a girl on these apps or sites for dating. Its not exactly very easy. And dating apps are a crapshoot as well. Most dating apps are only for Koreans (they use phone verification to ensure only Koreans can use it), Naver cafe dating sites are again, only for Koreans as they use verification. Tinder is a crapshoot since mostly foreign girls use them and the Korean girls that use that only want white men.
So what am I to do? The last couple girls I have met for dating, all rejected me after the first date, leaving me more or less pretty much guaranteed to be single for my remaining 4 months in Korea. I’ve tried as hard as I can without resorting to going to church or hunting. I know Korean girls care about appearance and cleanliness, so I’ve changed my hairstyle and clothing style, did lasik surgery to get rid of glasses, etc I speak a combination of Korean and English so that they don’t feel too lost when I speak English. I always pay for them when we go out. I don’t know what else I can do to make them interested in me… I’ve tried my best.
So far I’ve met these kind of girls:
-left me hanging on the street after I told her that appearance is important
-called the cops on me because she thought I was secretly taking video of her
-blocked me because I suggested her to go to a hookah place and she thought it was some kind of dangerous drug
-blocked me because last time we met I couldn’t find where she was fast enough
-blocked me because I took 3 days to respond to her message (I was in SF meeting my coworkers at the time)
-blocked me because I couldn’t meet her for drinking beer the exact day she asked (I was in SF at the time)
-blocked me because I said her pictures were pretty
-blocked me because I made a (mild) joke about her ex-bf and learning his language
-blocked me and went crazy swearing at me because I uploaded a video of us together on my youtube that she didn’t like
-blocked me because I wouldn’t give her money even though she wasn’t my gf
-blocked me because I didn’t “satisfy” her enough on our date even though on the date she pretended to like me a lot and I responded to it but I wasn’t “good enough”
Its like if I even did something like breathe the wrong way the girl would stop talking to me. I have no idea why I am meeting these types of girls while my friends always meets the kind of girls that are sweet and loving and want to be with them. Its like I’m cursed to forever be single or something.
Its ironic that I would have the most trouble getting a Korean girlfriend in Korea, the land of Korean girls. I want to keep trying though, since I am very devoted and loyal to them (haven’t dated a non Korean girl since 2012) and I am confident I can find the right girl, but maybe she’s not in Korea. Maybe I have to go back to USA or Canada to find her, as crazy as that sounds. I know those girls are more likely to be harder to get (more competition from American guys) and harder to find (less Koreans obviously) and probably going to go back to Korea at some point (exchange student), but what can I do? 2 years in Korea, and still nothing. I was too picky last year I know, but this year I’m not picky anymore, and I still can’t find the right girl. I am highly doubtful in the next 4 months that anything will change. I am close to giving up on finding a Korean girlfriend in Korea at this point. Its just torture seeing all these beautiful girls outside being really sweet and loving to their boyfriends, and knowing that I have no chance of getting those kind of girls to even respond to my messages let alone meet them and be in a relationship with them. Its like sitting behind the bars of a jail cell watching delicious food go past while you are hungry and starving, and unable to get those foods. Its within your reach, but you can’t get it. I’m about ready to leave Korea at this point. 4 more months of agony, out of my 20 months of total agony and I will finally go back to the USA, where I will still be lonely but the agony won’t be as painful because of the lack of Korean couples.
Some people ask me why Korean girls ? If you have so much trouble why don’t you marry a Chinese girl or Japanese girl? They don’t understand that
1) we are attracted to who we are attracted to. I can’t help who I like, why force myself to like girls who I don’t like?
2) Korean girls have the perfect combination of appearance and personality for me. Everything from their facial structure, way they dress, put on makeup, treat their boyfriend etc is perfect for me. Most Korean girls out there, care about their appearance a lot, always have good fashion and check their makeup wherever they go, are really sweet and loving to their boyfriends, nice and polite, loyal to Korean men (I’ve had several girls straight up tell me they only date Korean guys), very feminine and cute personalities, and on top of that do the cooking and cleaning and take care of children after they get married. The sad thing is Korean men don’t really appreciate those attributes, still cheat on them a lot and go for foreigner girls and have high standards for Korean girls. I don’t really understand that. Korean guys take what Korean girls do for them for granted… they don’t understand how amazing and perfect Korean girls are.
3) There’s vast differences between the 3 different races especially between Chinese and Korean girls. I’ve made a video about this before.
4) I don’t like it when people tell me this. It’s almost as if they think that Korean girls are out of my league and I should go for a “lesser” girl. Why don’t Korean guys or heck white guys get asked why they like Korean girls only?
5) I spent the last 4 years of my life focused on Korean language, culture and living in Korea. You think I would throw that all away and end up marrying a different kind of girl? That makes no sense.
But since its the last goal I really have in my life, I already have a stable job and an apartment, I need to devote all my resources to achieving this goal, and if 4 years of my life wasn’t enough (2 years studying Korean, 2 years spent in Korea), then we’ll keep going until this goal is achieved. As long as I am concerned, its either get the right Korean girlfriend who matches with me and marry her, or stay single forever. There’s no other option.