Korean fashion style

One of the things I love most about Korean people is how much they care about fashion and how they dress. Their style is IMO much better looking than American or other Asian styles that I’ve seen so far. It seems almost every Korean girl cares about appearance and how they look. For guys, a lower percentage do, but still many guys do as well. So I want to write about what I’ve seen, since I care about appearance and I often notice how both guys and girls dress and look like here. Korea is also a very homogeneous country, and also very conformist so the same style of skirt or pants that you see on one person you might see several times a day. With that said lets move on to these different styles. I’ll start with guys since there’s less to talk about with them.

Men (20s-30s)
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Head / Face / Makeup

Common Korean hairstyle for men
Common Korean hairstyle for men
-Most Korean men don’t dye their hair (some do, but not as common as Korean girls do), keeping it black.
-They prefer to have the bangs go down over their forehead like the picture above.
-Medium length hair is very common (in contrast to Chinese guys who have very short spiky hair, and Japanese guys who sometimes have longer hair reaching down to their neck).
-Most Korean men don’t wear makeup (although some do, its definitely the minority).
-Maybe 50% or so of Korean men did lasik surgery or wear contacts, as Koreans in general do not like wearing glasses compared to other Asians.
-Korean men fully shave their facial hair (in contrast to other Asian men who may keep a stubble or facial hair of some sort).

Top clothing

Tight collar shirt, fully buttoned, with rolled up sleeves or exposed arms
Tight collar shirt, fully buttoned, with rolled up sleeves or exposed arms
-Koreans love tight clothing. One of the most common fashion styles for top-wear is to wear a collar shirt, fully buttoned, with either rolled up sleeves or exposing the arms. See above picture for example.

Striped shirts are very common, for both young boys and girls
Striped shirts are very common, for both young boys and girls
-Young Korean guys and girls, especially couples, love to wear striped shirts, as seen in the picture above. One reason is that they can match it easily to form couple clothing.

Tight Blazer for a fancy date
Tight Blazer for a fancy date
-For Older men and fancy occasions, a tight Blazer is a good choice for a fancy date or a good night out.
-Koreans tend not to wear ties outside of work.

These are the three most common styles of fashion for top wear that I’ve seen on Korean men.

Bottom clothing

Skinny Jeans
Skinny Jeans

More tight pants
More tight pants
-Skinny Jeans or Tight Khakis. Those are the most common items that I’ve seen. Keep it tight, keep it simple.
-In the summer, tight cargo shorts are very common like in the striped shirts picture above.

Shoes

For more special occasions
For more special occasions

These are more similar to the everyday type that you can wear
These are more similar to the everyday type that you can wear
-Running shoes (Converse type), Loafers (like the pic above) are very common for everyday occasions.
-For fancy occasions, Oxford type or similar shoes can be worn.
-A lot of Korean guys, and me included, don’t wear socks with our shoes for casual occasions.

Accessories

Korean glasses style
Korean glasses style
-Usually Korean men do not wear any hats.
-Very few guys do tattoos or piercings.
-As mentioned before maybe half of all Korean guys wear glasses. They prefer to wear oversized frames, with the shape more roundish than square (Westerners often prefer wearing square frames to round frames).
-Korean guys like to wear watches. Invest in a good classy looking mechanical watch.

Women (20s-30s)
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This section is going be longer because women care about their appearance and fashion more, so I can’t say every kind of fashion but I will try to list the most common styles I’ve seen.

Head / Face / Makeup

Typical Korean hair, dyed brownish-red and reaches to the shoulder or past
Typical Korean hair, dyed brownish-red and reaches to the shoulder or past
-50% of Korean women dye their hair, usually to brown or reddish-brown tint.
-They don’t like to leave their hair up. Most Korean girls let their hair down.
-Hair is medium length (down to shoulders) or longer (down past the shoulders). There are very few girls who have short hair who are not in high school.
-Perm/Bleach is also fairly common.

Korean makeup; lots of eyeliner, lots of pale foundation, red lipstick
Korean makeup; lots of eyeliner, lots of pale foundation, red lipstick
-Almost every Korean girl wears makeup (in contrast to Chinese girls who don’t wear makeup). The typical Korean girl puts on lots of eyeliner, lots of foundation or BB Cream to make their skin look paler, slight blush on their cheeks and red lipstick, like in the picture above. They also wear fake eyelashes sometimes.

Another typical makeup example.
Another typical makeup example.
-Makeup is the single most important thing that changes a girls appearance. Most Korean girls who do plastic surgery do it to get double eyelids instead of single eyelids. But that doesn’t make as noticeable a difference as makeup does. Makeup literally makes their eyes look twice as big as before. The example above shows typical lots of eyeliner to make the eye look bigger, as well as lots of foundation and BB cream to make the skin look paler and cover up imperfections.
-Note that some girls even put makeup on other parts of their body like their legs to hide imperfections.
-Korean girls shave every part of their body, and this needs to be mentioned because some Asians like Chinese girls do NOT shave every part of their body. Yes this includes the upper lip area as well, and a lot of girls prefer to get things lasered instead, so they don’t have to deal with shaving.
-Most Korean girls paint their fingernails and/or toenails. Especially if they are wearing toe-open heels or shoes.
-Most Korean girls get braces for their teeth. (I have to mention this to contrast it to Japanese girls who are known for having crooked teeth).

Top clothing

-Young girls like to wear the striped shirt (as shown above)

Typical Korean blouse
Typical Korean blouse

Shoulderless shirt
Shoulderless shirt
-I cannot list all the types of blouses a Korean girl wears, but the above is an example of the type of blouse an older Korean girl would wear. They are usually very feminine and sometimes transparent to show off their arms or chest. The shoulderless shirt is another type of clothing older women wear a lot as well.

One type of one piece; this one is shoulderless
One type of one piece; this one is shoulderless

another one piece type with straight hem
another one piece type with straight hem
-This technically classifies as both top and bottom wear but, Korean girls love to wear dresses, and while I cannot list every single type of dress they wear, I’ve given three examples above of one piece dresses. They like to wear shoulderless types, semi-transparent types, frilly or flare bottoms, straight bottoms, etc.

Another type of one piece
Another type of one piece with frilly hem and top covered with a jacket

typical long coat used to cover their top
typical long coat used to cover their top
-Because Korean girls think showing top or their chest is considered more sexy than showing bottom, they often cover the top of their body with a long coat or or jacket while wearing a one piece or skirt underneath.

Bottom clothing

-As I said, Korean girls love to show wear dresses and generally like to show their legs since its (for some reason) not considered sexy at all to show legs in Korea. Thus Korean girls love to wear short skirts and short shorts as well in addition to dresses.

Typical short skirt in Korea (yes this is typical)
Typical short skirt in Korea (yes this is quite common!)

A flare skirt, so named because the hem flares out
A flare skirt, so named because the hem flares out

A typical A-line skirt or Pencil skirt as many office girls would wear
A typical A-line skirt or Pencil skirt as many office girls would wear
-Once again I’m not going to list all the different types of skirts that I’ve seen, there’s too many, but there’s some common ones above. Young girls tend to wear flare skirts (or tennis skirt), while older girls wear pencil skirts or A line skirts, sometimes with slits cut in the back.

A transparent dress worn over a short skirt
A transparent dress worn over a short skirt
-Though not as common as the other types of dresses, sometimes Korean girls wear these transparent types of dresses with a short skirt of shorts underneath.

Typical hot pants
Typical hot pants

typical jean shorts
typical jean shorts
-Since Korean girls love to wear anything that shows their legs off, the shortest pants imaginable are called “hot pants” and often worn in the summer or going clubbing, though some girls wear them day to day. Young girls sometimes wear short exercise shorts or jean shorts. No they don’t exercise in them, they just wear it because it shows a lot of leg.

-Skinny jeans. Though they are in the minority compared to the dresses/skirts.

koreans like to wear stockings in the winter
koreans like to wear stockings in the winter
-While in the summer Korean girls bare their legs, in the colder months they tend to wear stockings in lieu of pants (again because they like to show their legs), either nude/transparent pantyhose or black stockings. I don’t have a picture of transparent pantyhose because, well, they just look like skin from a distance since they “skin colored”.

Shoes

Typical platforms a young Korean girl would wear
Typical platforms a young Korean girl would wear

Platform sandals or runners
Platform sandals or runners
-Young Korean girls prefer to wear either high heeled sandals, platform shoes or running shoes (Converse or Vans is popular as several photos above attest)

typical High heels
typical High heels

typical black high heeled shoes
typical black high heeled shoes
-Older Korean girls wear platform shoes, high heeled shoes or stilettos (sometimes very high)

Accessories

-No glasses. 90% of Korean girls don’t wear glasses (in contrast to other Asians who often do). They do lasik surgery or wear contacts instead.
-Very few girls do tattoos or non ear piercings.
-Earrings are common, but not on every girl. Some wear them, some don’t. I’ve seen about 50/50 on this.
-Necklaces also common, and also a 50/50.
-Watches also common (in contrast to Westerners who don’t commonly wear watches anymore). I’ve seen more Korean girls wear watches than not, though not as commonly as Korean men do.

Ankle bracelet
Ankle bracelet
-A peculiar feature of Korean fashion is the ankle bracelet. Because so many girls show their legs in Korea, they like to “spice up” their look by wearing these on their leg.

So yeah… that’s about it for now. Since Koreans care so much about appearance, I felt compelled to make this post about Korean fashion 🙂 The overall theme of Korean fashion seems to be “Neat and Clean” style and I think it looks way better than fashion in other parts of the world IMO.

The dream is dying…

These past few days have been depressing, more than usual I guess. I accidentally erased my video logs dating back to late 2013, where I would just talk to the camera about various issues at the time. I would do this at various times between 2013-present and I lost all my video logs back then since I don’t upload those to youtube and they were together on the disk with my other youtube video files so I accidentally deleted them while organizing my files.

So I had to recollect all my memories from back then and re-iterate them again. But the most disappointing part of being in Korea so far is being rejected by Korean girls, and thats the main source of my depression. I’ve been rejected by 3 girls on the first date in the last 2 months, and thats what spurring this rant today.

I have posted several times last year about how hard it was to get a Korean girl to like me, and in my total 2 years in Korea I’ve only had 2 girls that have been my official girlfriend, for a total of only about 4 months. Out of 24 months, the other 20 months I’ve been single. I’ve been on many dates, but for some reason the girl always rejects me or loses interest after the first date. I’m not sure what I did wrong. I pay for girls, I treat them nicely, I talk to her about her interests, etc I don’t understand what I am doing wrong on the first date.

The problem is for foreigners, we don’t have that many ways to meet Korean girls. Most couples that I see on the street, those Korean couples met through blind dating, they had a friend or coworker introduce them. Because I never went to school here or work for a Korean company, I don’t have anyone to introduce me. My Korean friends’ friends all already have a boyfriend or they don’t date foreign guys (xenophobic society I know). Thus we can meet girls only through a few ways, either going to club or bar or picking up girls through “hunting”, using meetups or language exchange apps or sites, or going to church.
I don’t like to do “hunting” as my personality is totally unfit for it, and its hard to change my personality. Meeting girls at church could be my last resort, but I’m not religious in any way. Using language exchange apps or sites have been the primary way for me to meet girls so far, and out of those girls I’ve met, 70% of them text me for a few days and then eventually stop texting or responding after that. the remaining 30% that are willing to meet me, about 90% of them are only interested in language exchange. So you can imagine how difficult it is to meet a girl on these apps or sites for dating. Its not exactly very easy. And dating apps are a crapshoot as well. Most dating apps are only for Koreans (they use phone verification to ensure only Koreans can use it), Naver cafe dating sites are again, only for Koreans as they use verification. Tinder is a crapshoot since mostly foreign girls use them and the Korean girls that use that only want white men.

So what am I to do? The last couple girls I have met for dating, all rejected me after the first date, leaving me more or less pretty much guaranteed to be single for my remaining 4 months in Korea. I’ve tried as hard as I can without resorting to going to church or hunting. I know Korean girls care about appearance and cleanliness, so I’ve changed my hairstyle and clothing style, did lasik surgery to get rid of glasses, etc I speak a combination of Korean and English so that they don’t feel too lost when I speak English. I always pay for them when we go out. I don’t know what else I can do to make them interested in me… I’ve tried my best.

So far I’ve met these kind of girls:
-left me hanging on the street after I told her that appearance is important
-called the cops on me because she thought I was secretly taking video of her
-blocked me because I suggested her to go to a hookah place and she thought it was some kind of dangerous drug
-blocked me because last time we met I couldn’t find where she was fast enough
-blocked me because I took 3 days to respond to her message (I was in SF meeting my coworkers at the time)
-blocked me because I couldn’t meet her for drinking beer the exact day she asked (I was in SF at the time)
-blocked me because I said her pictures were pretty
-blocked me because I made a (mild) joke about her ex-bf and learning his language
-blocked me and went crazy swearing at me because I uploaded a video of us together on my youtube that she didn’t like
-blocked me because I wouldn’t give her money even though she wasn’t my gf
-blocked me because I didn’t “satisfy” her enough on our date even though on the date she pretended to like me a lot and I responded to it but I wasn’t “good enough”

Its like if I even did something like breathe the wrong way the girl would stop talking to me. I have no idea why I am meeting these types of girls while my friends always meets the kind of girls that are sweet and loving and want to be with them. Its like I’m cursed to forever be single or something.

Its ironic that I would have the most trouble getting a Korean girlfriend in Korea, the land of Korean girls. I want to keep trying though, since I am very devoted and loyal to them (haven’t dated a non Korean girl since 2012) and I am confident I can find the right girl, but maybe she’s not in Korea. Maybe I have to go back to USA or Canada to find her, as crazy as that sounds. I know those girls are more likely to be harder to get (more competition from American guys) and harder to find (less Koreans obviously) and probably going to go back to Korea at some point (exchange student), but what can I do? 2 years in Korea, and still nothing. I was too picky last year I know, but this year I’m not picky anymore, and I still can’t find the right girl. I am highly doubtful in the next 4 months that anything will change. I am close to giving up on finding a Korean girlfriend in Korea at this point. Its just torture seeing all these beautiful girls outside being really sweet and loving to their boyfriends, and knowing that I have no chance of getting those kind of girls to even respond to my messages let alone meet them and be in a relationship with them. Its like sitting behind the bars of a jail cell watching delicious food go past while you are hungry and starving, and unable to get those foods. Its within your reach, but you can’t get it. I’m about ready to leave Korea at this point. 4 more months of agony, out of my 20 months of total agony and I will finally go back to the USA, where I will still be lonely but the agony won’t be as painful because of the lack of Korean couples.

Some people ask me why Korean girls ? If you have so much trouble why don’t you marry a Chinese girl or Japanese girl? They don’t understand that
1) we are attracted to who we are attracted to. I can’t help who I like, why force myself to like girls who I don’t like?
2) Korean girls have the perfect combination of appearance and personality for me. Everything from their facial structure, way they dress, put on makeup, treat their boyfriend etc is perfect for me. Most Korean girls out there, care about their appearance a lot, always have good fashion and check their makeup wherever they go, are really sweet and loving to their boyfriends, nice and polite, loyal to Korean men (I’ve had several girls straight up tell me they only date Korean guys), very feminine and cute personalities, and on top of that do the cooking and cleaning and take care of children after they get married. The sad thing is Korean men don’t really appreciate those attributes, still cheat on them a lot and go for foreigner girls and have high standards for Korean girls. I don’t really understand that. Korean guys take what Korean girls do for them for granted… they don’t understand how amazing and perfect Korean girls are.
3) There’s vast differences between the 3 different races especially between Chinese and Korean girls. I’ve made a video about this before.
4) I don’t like it when people tell me this. It’s almost as if they think that Korean girls are out of my league and I should go for a “lesser” girl. Why don’t Korean guys or heck white guys get asked why they like Korean girls only?
5) I spent the last 4 years of my life focused on Korean language, culture and living in Korea. You think I would throw that all away and end up marrying a different kind of girl? That makes no sense.

But since its the last goal I really have in my life, I already have a stable job and an apartment, I need to devote all my resources to achieving this goal, and if 4 years of my life wasn’t enough (2 years studying Korean, 2 years spent in Korea), then we’ll keep going until this goal is achieved. As long as I am concerned, its either get the right Korean girlfriend who matches with me and marry her, or stay single forever. There’s no other option.

Guide to dating women in South Korea

After almost 2 years of living in Seoul, and going to lots of clubs/parties/online websites, I have accumulated enough experience to give a general guide on dating Korean women. Yes I know, I’m not exactly a playboy, but I’ve seen enough guys dating girls here and know enough about Korean culture to give my 2 cents on this, and I know that some foreigner guys come to Korea exclusively to find women here, so here it is.

HOW TO MEET A KOREAN GIRL:
-I am Chinese Canadian, so dating in Korea is a little bit more difficult for me than for white people. As with any other Asian country, White people have the most advantage due to Hollywood/America etc all that stuff that Asian women like. Like other Asian women, Korean girls think that every guy in America looks like Chris Evans and has alot of money. So if you are white, then definitely you have the most advantage.
-That said, out of all Asian girls, Korean girls are also the hardest to get for a foreigner. Why is this? Because its a small country. Koreans have a culture where they support each other, very family oriented etc which means that a number of girls strictly only date with Korean guys. This is not a majority of girls though, as a sizeable amount are open to dating with foreigners.
-The BEST way to date a Korean girl is to get introduced. The culture here emphasizes blind dating. So if you know a Korean friend, he/she can introduce you, thats the best way. Otherwise you will have to use online meetup websites, or language exchange sites, or applications like HelloTalk or MEEP to get to know a girl. This is more difficult to get to know them because Korean girls are super flaky and a lot of them don’t trust meeting guys online. Out of the language sites and apps I used, only about 30-40% responded to me, and out of that response rate, maybe a third was willing to meet up while the other girls were Kakao chats only.
-Speaking of Kakao, that is the WeChat of Korea, the QQ of Korea, if you will. Absolutely if you want to contact a girl, be sure to download the KakaoTalk application and sign up, since every Korean girl uses that app to communicate.
-One night stand is fairly common especially in the areas of Seoul known for good nightlife like Hongdae or Itaewon. If you are white especially, just go to any club, be sure to have a wingman, and try talking up some girls and knowing a bit of Korean doesn’t hurt either. You should always be the one to talk though, Korean girls aren’t known for being loud or very talkative.
-Most young Korean girls can speak English alright, but not fluently. You should learn some basic Korean if you want to communicate with a girl effectively, but there are lots of girls in Hongdae/Itaewon who know English pretty well too, so if you go to those areas you might be ok.
-Do NOT make sexual jokes with a Korean girl or ask her over to your place unless you know them very well or if its a sleazy type of girl you met at a club. Most Korean girls will not go to a guys place the first time you meet them. They want to take time to get to know you first before they can come over.
-Lots of Korean girls go to church, how devoted they are depends on the girl, but church is always a good way to meet people, if your Korean is good enough to understand what they are saying.
-If you are brave enough, approaching a girl in a public area to ask for her number is actually done by many guys and is called “hunting”. Depends on the time and place, but it may work out, especially if you are white.
-Attracting a Korean girl is much like attracting any woman and the laws of picking up apply equally no matter where you are in the world – women are attracted to men who are funny, outgoing, can relate to them, listen to them, share similar interests, etc. Thus for playboys who have success in America or Europe, in Korea and other parts of Asia its not too big of a leap. For introverted guys like me, its much more difficult and takes more time. But thats the way things are in life.

HOW TO DATE A KOREAN GIRL:

-A relationship with a Korean girl is a give a lot – get a lot type of relationship. You have to text/call her a lot, so Korean girls are definitely high maintenance. I’d say like 50-60 texts a day especially if the girl is young. What you get in return is a girl who really does care about you and very sweet and loving, in my opinion. They do little things for you like help you put on your coat, buy gifts for you, do cute things with you etc they can be very sweet if you put in the time for them.
-Usually on a date, the guy is expected to pay for the main meal, and the girl usually pays for coffee/tea later. One side doesn’t pay for everything.
-You are expected to remember the major couple days in Korea, and there is a lot, in addition to bday/anniversary there is valentines day (2/14) where the girl gets the guy a gift and white day (3/14) where the guy gets the girl a gift. Pretty much very month has some of kind of couple day like Rose day or Peppero day (a Pocky-like snack) so be aware of these days.
-Korean girls can be very jealous, and some girls might even ask you not to meet any of your female friends. This is normal in Korea, where relationships tend to be very exclusive, and time for meeting other people are restricted if you are in a relationship. This is in accordance with the give a lot / get a lot thing. This is also why Korea has a very high proportion of couples that you see in public compared to other countries.
-Don’t be messy. Make sure if you invite a Korean girl over to your place, everything is super clean and tidy. That’s what they expect.
-They prefer the man to make the decisions for them. So when you set up a date, be sure to decide on the places to go, schedule, etc they will be expecting you to. They are very feminine and so they prefer guys to take the initiative.

WHY A KOREAN GIRL OVER OTHER ASIAN GIRLS:
-Korean girls are known as amongst the most beautiful women in the world, at least superficially, and they are probably the most self-conscious insecure women in Asia. Almost every girl wears makeup all the time, and dresses up like its clubbing attire all the time. Short skirts, high heels, transparent stockings (yes even in winter) are pretty normal wear for Korean women. You will probably find them the most feminine out of all Asian women. They all like to have pale skin, red lips and perfect straight white teeth (unlike Japanese girls). A lot of people try to put down Korean girls thinking they have so called ‘fake’ beauty but don’t listen to them, just because they put on makeup all the time or care about their appearance a lot doesn’t mean they were ugly before. Its just a part of their manners and culture.
-Yes alot of girls get plastic surgery but to be fair, 80% of the time, this is for getting double eyelids to make their eyes look bigger. This is why you will see more Korean girls with bigger eyes than Korean guys. If you have a problem with girls wearing a lot of makeup or having surgery on her face, then Korean girls are probably not for you (You should probably try Chinese girls instead).
-As I said, if you put time into the relationship, they can be very very sweet and loving women, and very devoted. I can’t compare with other Asian girls much, but definitely they put alot of effort into the relationship.
-No expectation for the guy to cook or do housework, since most Korean men can’t. But its always a plus if you can!
-Great fashion sense, and you’ll also notice 90% of Korean girls don’t wear glasses, preferring contacts or lasik surgery instead.
-Korean women shave every part of their body except ‘down under’, but some do if you ask them to.
-Most Korean girls are very polite and nice to people, but also very shy at first glance. You have to get them to open up.

DOWNSIDES
-Korean girls can be very very superficial and shallow sometimes. They care alot about fashion, style, appearance, hygiene. They don’t like facial hair. So go for a clean cut appearance, no glasses, blazer, collar shirt, khakis etc are all good. No baggy stuff, tattoos, beards, bling etc they hate that.
-Guys who are tall and fit and muscular definitely have an advantage over other guys.
-They are high maintenance. You have to put a lot of time into them, and spend a lot of time with them. This is why you always see couples everywhere in Korea. They are very dependent on guys. So you can’t be ignoring them or spending time with other people as often.
-Again, the extreme jealousy part… Korean girls can get pretty crazy if they find you with another girl talking or texting. Be wary of these things.
-Yes some girls are gold diggers, but this can be said for any girl in the world, so take caution with that.
-More so than any other Asian race, Korean women are loyal to their race and because of their conservative culture, a fair amount only stick to Korean guys. So just be aware there’s a sizeable portion that you just can’t get as a foreigner.
-The hottest girls (10s) don’t speak English at all. Which makes them pretty much Korean men material only. You can try but… unless you are a celebrity it will be very difficult.

All in all, Korean women IMO are the hottest girls in Asia, surgery or not. Their mind is in between Chinese women and Japanese women, which means they aren’t totally blunt but not totally hiding their emotions either. If you like a girl who cares about her appearance, and are willing to put in the time and effort you will be rewarded, so check out South Korea if you have the chance. Hope this post helps you guys.