White guys with yellow fever (i.e have a preference for Asian girls) date girls purely because they have a certain look, that’s it. I used to have a friend who used to justify his yellow fever with statements like ‘oh I like Asian culture better etc’ but in the end, he dated ALL Asian girls and not just from Asia, from America too. Asian American girls AND Asian girls from Asia. This implies that there was absolutely nothing culture related because Asian-American girls have the exact same culture – it was purely because they looked Asian that’s it.
Is that an acceptable reason to prefer someone? Sure, as long as you don’t give me any questions if I say something like ‘oh I prefer white girls because they look white’. It’s the exact same thing. Another thing is the double standard. People are a lot more accepting of white men dating asian girls than asian guys dating [insert non Asian race here]. Heck, even dating other Asians. I got way more questions about me dating Korean girls than my white friend ever did when he dated all these Asian girls. Probably because Western media and Hollywood has made people more comfortable with white guys + asian girls than any other interracial pairing. That’s kind of unfair though. Asian guys get way more questions and judgment when they date another race than when Asian girls do, and that’s not fair.
I’m back from Japan! which means I now have been to the three major East Asian countries, Japan Korea and China. Which means I can do a fair comparison between all three.
Cost of living
Japan is the costliest for sure. Not only is it about 20-30% more expensive than Korea on everything, but a lot of places are cash only! Electronics, Food, Housing, services etc everything is the most expensive in Japan. China has probably the cheapest cost of living in general, unless you are staying in Beijing or Shanghai. Aside from those two cities, other cities are much cheaper to live in. Korea is somewhere in between.
Winner: China
Food
Japan has a lot of good seafood and noodles. Of course I don’t eat much seafood, so I mostly ate Soba, Ramen and Udon, and YakiniQ and Shabu shabu. If you like seafood, Japan’s the place to go. Korea has mostly spicy food, pork or chicken is common. They don’t have that many vegetables aside from Kimchi in their dishes, so if you like spicy meat, Korea is the best. China is big and has so many different cuisines that I can’t generalize it. Just I’m gonna say if you don’t like oily foods then don’t go to China, else China has a lot of tasty foods as well.
Winner: depends on what you like but China has the most variety
Natural Scenery
Japan has great natural scenery, Okinawa, Kyoto, lots of temples and shrines. And Korea has Jeju, Gyeongju, Gangwon-do, lots of great places as well. However, neither really compares to China, as its the biggest and is the clear winner here with every place from the mountains of Tibet to the lush mountains of Southern China, the historic capitals of Beijing, Xi’an and Nanjing, Yunnan, Guizhou, Huangshan, the canals of Suzhou and Wuzhen, the West Lake of Hangzhou, I mean Southern China by itself is its own category for beauty, mainland China wins here by virtue of having the most land, so no offense to Japan and Korea, but China clearly wins here.
Winner: China
Technology
Japan has the best technology by far. For example they have machines that scan your face, determine your mood and recommend you a drink based on that. That’s incredible. Korea has great technology too especially fast internet but overall its a step below Japan. China, outside of Beijing/Shanghai, still lags behind Japan/Korea in tech (they just recently got LTE for example, and China never had 3G penetration). In addition a lot of websites are banned in China and you need a VPN to access them so yeah… beware of that.
Winner: Japan
English
Korea uses the most English out of the three, which means its the most friendly to foreigners. A lot of Korean words sound just like English anyways (Konglish), and Koreans in general speak the best English out of the three. Japan has a bit of English but not much and most places will have Japanese only. China, good luck there’s no English to be found pretty much anywhere and Chinese generally cannot speak a lick of English.
Winner: Korea
Nightlife
Korea has the most 24 hour establishments out of the three, and Seoul is The place to go for all night drinking and clubbing, so if you’re into that, Korea is the place. Japan has 24 hour places too, but less so than Korea, and not so much drinking either. China didn’t even have clubs until very recently thanks to Communism, and its still developing. That said, Shanghai has nightlife on par with any big Asian city.
Winner: Korea (Seoul in particular)
Women
Ah, the girls. As for absolute beauty, if you don’t care natural or unnatural, Korea takes the cake here. Korean girls love to dress up, wear short skirts and lots of makeup and in general you won’t find many ugly Korean girls at all.
Japanese girls are more conservative, tend to cover their legs more by wearing pants, long dresses or knee length dresses, and while they do makeup, not as much as Korean girls do.
Chinese girls, I’ve mentioned before, prefer not to do anything to their appearance, and don’t do makeup nor dress up that much. They are the most conservative out of the three (again thanks to Communism). I’m not going to get into “natural beauty” as Chinese girls often like to brag about, since all races have “natural beauty” its how much extra attention you put into your appearance, and Korean girls win by a landslide here. You’ll also find that the rate of glasses-wearing girls is correlated as well, with about 60%~ of Chinese girls wearing glasses, 30%~ of Japanese girls wearing glasses, and 10%~ of Korean girls wearing glasses.
Behavior wise, Japanese girls are extremely kind and polite, my Japanese friend paid for everything from food, spa, even my train ticket to Kyoto! I’ve never had a woman pay that much for me before. Japanese girls are more indirect when they are talking to you, and very shy. Chinese girls are opposite, very direct and blunt when talking and not as shy as other Asian girls. Their manners are not as good as Koreans or Japanese, as many people who have seen Chinese tourists can attest to. Korean girls are somewhere in the middle in behavior, the perfect balance if you ask me.
Winner: Korea on absolute beauty, Japanese on the most well mannered
Some people might say I have a Korean bias, so I will add a video later to show the differences and you can judge for yourself. I will also visit Taiwan after, so I can do a comparison of Taiwanese girls too, though I expect somewhat of a cross between Chinese and Japanese.
Ok and another topic I wanted to talk is InterAsian relationships. A lot of fuss has been made around Asian-White relationships and I’ve blogged about this in the past, just like a lot of Asian Canadian/American guys I was angry at how many white guys were “stealing” our women, but after meeting actual Asian girls from Asia I changed my stance on this.
It doesn’t matter to me anymore, because I don’t care about Asian American girls anymore. To me, they are just American girls wrapped in an Asian skin. Their personalities are totally American.
I’m more interested in Asian-Asian relationships, particularly since I’m a Chinese interested in Korean women. Fact is, I’ve seen less Inter-asian relationships than white-asian relationships and thats really perplexing to me. But as I’ve seen, the reason this might be, is because Asians are generally close minded to their own race. Chinese hang out with Chinese, Koreans with Koreans, Japanese with Japanese. Because of this narrow mindedness they develop misconceptions of other Asians and are not willing to hang out outside of their race. Thus, other Asian men aren’t likely to ask out women from another Asian race.
That’s my reasoning for why I see so few Chinese men-Korean girl relationships since on paper, thats a pretty darn good pairing! Chinese men are known to be good at household work, and the new generation of Korean girls prefer guys who can do housework/cooking as the previous generation of Korean guys couldn’t. Also, Chinese guys don’t mind spending money for girls whereas Korean guys complain about it.
Yet, I rarely have seen that pairing.
More common is White men-Asian girl pairings, and why is this more common? Because white people (and I mean Westerners by that) are more open minded and willing to try new kinds of relationships. They are also much more aggressive in talking to girls, which in the end is why there’s much more white-asian relationships than Asian-other asian relationships.
I often get asked ‘why do you like Korean girls? why not Chinese girls?’ and I don’t like this, because I was born near Korea, so I have a similar background, we’re both Asian, and why do I have to like the race I was born into anyways? I don’t think white guys who date Asian girls get asked the same question “why do you only like Asian girls?” despite the fact that I know quite a large number of white friends who have yellow fever and exclusively date Asian girls. They have less in common with Asians and they don’t get asked, while I have a lot in common with Koreans and I get questioned. Weird.
This used to be a topic that I used to argue quite passionately about, but has since died down. However, it came up today as a passionate discussion in a meetup group that I belong to, as well as a forum topic, and a topic my brother brought up. Yes, its the topic that is guarantee to incite some heated debates: White guys dating Asian girls.
So why is this such a hot topic? Why does it incite such passionate debate amongst Asian men? Well I think the root of it all is that whenever we (Asian men) see an Asian girl dating a White guy, the Asian girl is assumed to be: 1) Self hating of her race, 2) With the white guy based solely on his race or money, and the White guy assumed to have yellow fever (fetish for Asian girls).
So, at one time, I too used to be angry whenever I saw a white guy + asian girl together making out or holding hands or whatever, especially if it was a pretty Asian girl. I mean, why did she choose to be with him? Why not an Asian guy like me? What does he have that I don’t besides the skin color? But later this feeling died down because I realized several things.
1) If you want her, go for her.
If you are shy, of course another dude is gonna come over and take her. If you are so afraid of a caucasian male taking that Asian female, then step up your game and flirt with her, ask her out. Why wait for your fear to come true? Make a move before he does.
2) Some Asian girls are going to have a preference for White men. Deal with it.
Some girls, whether its Media bias or some other reason (historically, AF-WM are featured everywhere from John Lennon-Yoko Ono to Harry Potter-Cho Chang), just have a strong preference for white guys. And maybe they are racist for having that preference. But so what, a lot of Asian guys are racist too for only wanting to date Asian girls. In the end, it’s their choice and you should respect that.
3) Who cares?
Yeah, so you see a lot of White male – Asian female couples. So what? How many Asian females are out there? billions. Point is, there’s plenty of Asian females out there. It’s a waste of time getting jealous or thinking its unjust that they date another race. Because in the end, there is still obviously more Asian couples than interracial couples.
That post was directed towards mostly other Asian men who get riled up about this topic. To Asian girls: It’s your decision but don’t date a caucasian guy because you think they have “better genetics, taller, better looking, make prettier babies and “Bigger” etc“. Date them for who they are. Because that’s a generalization, and if you ever date people based on expectations, you’ll almost surely be disappointed.
Edit: I found this interesting: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/?a=1 according to this article, we’re all subconsciously racist. Everyone likes white guys, but no one likes black women.
Edit:
Here is more proof: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/?a=1
I have researched alot into interracial marriages between Asian Americans and Caucasians (because of my indelible curiousity with this trend, I will also refer to whites as caucasians for consistency), and have found quite shocking results.
The following is paraphrased from asian-nation.org, a site that verifies its information regularly using textbooks and demographical statistics and trends. Here are the finds.
Indian-Americans:
Males: 69% marry other Indian Americans, while 21% marry Caucasians.
Females: 70% marry other Indian Americans, while 21% marry Caucasians.
Chinese Americans:
Males: 65% marry other Chinese Americans, while 19% marry Caucasians.
Females: 55% marry other Chinese Americans, while 30% marry Caucasians.
Filipino Americans:
Males: 50% marry other Filipino Americans, while 28% marry Caucasians.
Females: 37% marry other Filipino Americans, while 41% marry Caucasians.
Japanese Americans:
Males: 63% marry other Japanese Americans, while 20% marry Caucasians.
Females: 56% marry other Japanese Americans, while 28% marry Caucasians.
Korean Americans:
Males: 63% marry other Korean Americans, while 24% marry Caucasians.
Females: 40% marry other Korean Americans, while 48% marry Caucasians.
Vietnamese Americans:
Males: 73% marry other Vietnamese Americans, while 11% marry Caucasians.
Females: 67% marry other Vietnamese Americans, while 23% marry Caucasians.
As you can see, several trends are present here. One is that the Interacial marriage rate is increasing steadily. In the case of the Filipino Americans and Korean Americans, the intermarriage rate is almost equal or surpassing that of marrying someone of the same race.
Another trend is that females are more likely to marry caucasians than males. This may be because of a number of things. One, stereotypes that asian females are exotic and obediant wives, and that asian males are nerdy and generally weak. Second, an asian woman may marry a caucasian man because of the social benefits associated with caucasians. thirdly, the need to be accepted is quite prevalent, and a woman may marry to forsake her asian past.
Consequently, If this trend were to continue, the chance of seeing an asian-american with another asian american will continue to decrease, and be quite rare. The sense of cultural identity may also be lost with it. There is no sexism or racism associated with this post. It is simply an accurate representation of current trends within asian-american and caucasian races.