How come Korean girls don’t date Chinese guys?

This is a question I have wondered about for a long time. It would seem to be a perfect pairing on paper.

Chinese guys get a girl who is not as strong as Chinese girls are (generally), do more for them around the house, give gifts or pay for things in return, do not expect a dowry when marrying, and are generally more feminine and care more about their appearance as well. In addition, there’s no historical baggage or issues like there would be if it was a Japanese girl.

Korean girls get a guy who arguably does as much as or more for them than Korean guys will, plus will do housework, cooking and taking care of the baby as well (a lot of Korean guys do not do this). Also, its arguable they dont have as much pressure to dress up or do makeup or look perfect all the time with Chinese guys compared to Korean guys.

But in practice while I was living in Korea, I noticed very few Korean girls with Chinese men (granted, it could be hard to tell these couples apart from a typical Korean couple), and even the Korean girls I met who had studied in China before as exchange students and met me to practice their Chinese, surprisingly did not date any Chinese guys in China (they still dated their Korean bfs long distance, or remained single).

So why is this? Why do Korean women stick to Korean guys or even prefer to date white men over Chinese men?

I think I finally narrowed it down to a few reasons, after asking many Korean girls this question over the years (me being of Chinese ethnicity myself, have a horse in the race so to speak):

  1. Korean women prefer to date men who can share their language and culture. This in fact is the reason why most races date their own race – but its especially true for Korean women because of how conservative their society is. Koreans in general are not known to be the type to really take risks or ‘be different’ as their society rewards a conformist way of thinking. Simply put, Korean women date Korean men because they are the most comfortable for them, they can communicate better with them, they don’t like to try new things, they want to be like every other Korean, and/or their parents are very conservative and don’t like them to date outside their race.
  2. Korean women don’t have an opportunity to know how Chinese men are like. They do know how Korean men are like. Plus the influence of Kdramas and Kpop really do help Korean men out a lot. Chinese men have no such entertainment vehicle to promote themselves. The CCP is focused on their domestic economy and are not interested to spread their culture to foreigners like Koreans do. That plus the whole censorship thing means that Chinese dramas + movies + music will likely never be popular in Korea the same way Korean music/movies/dramas are popular worldwide, and in China. This means however sweet and caring Chinese men are in reality, Korean women and other women have no idea. Instead, they have the idea that Korean men are like that because of all the dramas and such. Soft power really makes a difference here.
  3. Chinese men like to stick to their race. Ask any Chinese guy who are the prettiest girls and they will likely say Chinese girls. They won’t say Korean girls. This is because Chinese people are fiercely nationalistic and prefer their own race, but also because just like how Korean men are hyped up in Korean media, Chinese women are hyped up in Chinese media – Chinese women are promoted in their own country the same way Korean men are promoted in their country. In addition – they have the mistaken notion that all Korean women did plastic surgery (which is false, as I have explained in my previous answers many times). What you have as a result is a curious reversal of states here: Korean women and Chinese men, while on paper being the perfect fit for each other, instead remain loyal to their race, while Korean men and Chinese women – not so much. Korean men are in general just intrigued by any girl who is pretty, Korean or not. And Chinese women are lured by those Korean dramas/hype that promote Korean men, as well as men who have more money obviously. Of course on paper Korean men and Chinese women seem like the relationship will not work out very well as they are both ‘strong’ types but in reality there are more Korean men-Chinese women relationships than Korean women-Chinese men relationships, as baffling as that sounds.

But Tong, if 1) and 2) are true, why do I see a lot of Korean women marrying Western guys (i.e white men)?
This is exactly related to 1) and 2) actually.
1) Korean women who want to buck the conformist trend or don’t like the traditional Korean culture see white men as the exact opposite of Korean culture – they think Chinese men are still somewhat Confucian and a ‘halfway point’ between Korean men and Western men – why go halfway when you can go all the way to a culture thats totally different from Korean culture?
And 2) white men are heavily promoted by Hollywood and American pop music – again, media influence / soft power matters and white men have generally been the recipient of a very powerful media presence, the American media, which spreads globally. That’s why white men can generally get any girl, anywhere – America, Europe, Asia, etc without any issues.

Of course this is all my theory on why I don’t see more Chinese men – Korean girl couples even though it makes more sense for these two to be together, why in reality, we don’t actually see this being the case.
However, I will note that the few times I have seen Korean girls date Chinese men – they are usually Taiwanese or Hong Kongers. The reason for this I would assume, is that Taiwanese guys and Hong Kong guys can speak english better than mainland Chinese guys can – and they are not as fiercely nationalistic as mainland Chinese guys are either. Also, they have a generally better ‘image’ in Korea than mainlanders do (which is caused by the bad Chinese tourist stereotype).

 

Why do so many hardcore gamers insist that PC gaming is superior to gaming consoles?

It’s probably because:

-PCs are upgradeable, and thus are inevitably more powerful

-can be custom built to a wide range of specs, often for a better value

-the games are usually on sale on Steam.

-the games can be modded – and those mods downloaded for free

-If you’re a professional gamer, you probably should game using a keyboard, mouse, 120hz+ refresh rate monitor and high end PC because you would be getting a substantial advantage in your competitive gaming compared to console gamers.

-Also, gaming online is free.

However there are benefits to consoles too:

-Physical releases anyone? PCs rarely have those anymore. Some like to collect the boxes / cases for resale value – something you cannot do with Steam/Origin/Epic games.

-Consoles are easier to set up and use. You dont have to find the right GPU drivers, peripheral drivers, make sure u are running the minimum requirements etc – consoles are pick up and play.

-Console games are in general more stable than PC games. This is because developers know exactly what hardware a PS4 Pro or Xbox One X runs. For PCs, there are thousands of possible configurations. This is why console games crash far less frequently than PC games do.

-Console games have more exclusives. There’s only a handful of modern day AAA games that appear on PC only. Almost every recent game on PC you can find on console. The same cannot be said of console games. I can name a few games on PS4 – Yakuza 6, Horizon Zero Dawn, God of War, Last of Us, Infamous, Spiderman – that are only available on PS4. Xbox One games almost always appear on PCs so almost no exclusives there. Red Dead Redemption 2 and Kingdom Hearts III are exclusive to only PS4/Xbox One. Nintendo Switch – Nintendo games are always exclusive so thats a major reason to keep at least one console and a PC.

Who are your top 10 NBA players of all time and why?

  1. Michael Jordan is the GOAT – because he’s the most complete guard ever to play and has more titles than Wilt does so he goes #1. 6–0 in the Finals, 10 scoring titles, 5 MVPs, 6 Finals MVPs, DPOY, he’s simply the most decorated player ever and thus deserves to be GOAT
  2. Wilt Chamberlain is my #2 – next to Jordan, the most complete player ever to play. Offensively he had the best prime of any player ever averaging 50 pts a game and Defensively he was probably the second best defensive player ever next to Bill Russell. He holds over 70+ NBA records, including most point/rebound/stamina related ones. He had the misfortune of playing on bad teams early in his career. So he goes second.
  3. I put Kareem Abdul-Jabbar third because really he had all the awards and accolades as well – just a hair short of Jordan, thats all. All time, he holds more records though due to his longevity. 6 rings, 6 MVPs, 2 scoring titles, 2 finals mvps, offensively and defensively he was not up to Wilt/Jordan but definitely above par – and he maintained this high level of play for 20 seasons. So Kareem is #3 for me.
  4. Bill Russell is #4 for me – no other player in professional sports has won as many championships as Bill Russell. No other player in NBA history had as much impact on the defensive side. The first black superstar in the NBA. The first black coach in American sports. The center of the most dominant dynasty in NBA history, for people who say that Russell had a stacked team, lets not forget that Bill Sharman and Bob Cousy won nothing before Russell came on the team, and John Havlicek had to wait until he got Dave Cowens to win anything again. Russell, Sam Jones and Tom Heinsohn really was the core of that dynasty. Russell’s weakness was his shooting as both his FG% and FT% were quite terribe.
  5. Lebron James is my #5. the most dominant player in the modern era (2010s-) he made 9 NBA finals which is the most Finals out of any player post 1960s, and he did it with the rigors of the modern NBA – 7 game series, 4 playoff series. He won more MVPs (4) than any other player at his position. He’s currently averaging 28/8/8 as a 34 year old. This kind of dominance hasn’t been seen since Jordan – although unlike Jordan, he also rebounds like a PF and assists like a PG. His 3–1 comeback in 2016 to beat a 73–9 team secured his position in the top 5 all time.
  6. Magic Johnson next. The best PG ever to play, Magic elevated his teammates like no other player except maybe Russell and Duncan. He holds 5 rings which is second most rings for a PG after Bob Cousy, he won by far the most MVPs and Finals MVPs (3) out of any PG. He was the centerpiece of a juggernaut Showtime Lakers dynasty that went to 9 Finals in just 12 years. I had Magic above Lebron at #5 until Lebron made that remarkable comeback in 2016. Magic’s weakness has always been his defense, although he led league in steals twice.
  7. Larry Bird. I often switch between Larry Bird and Tim Duncan for my #7 spot. Depends on my mood. They are both awesome franchise players and great team players that could step up in the heat of the moment. Larry Bird has less rings but more MVPs. He was probably more versatile than Duncan was. Bird could shoot the lights out, play decent defense (though not as good as Duncan), rebounded as well as Duncan did, and passed better than anyone in his era not named Magic. Bird had a habit of making clutch plays. His only flaw was having a shortened career plagued by injury.
  8. Tim Duncan. As I said, I often swap between Bird and Duncan because they are so close. Duncan tied Kobe for the most rings in his era, but has more MVPs and more Finals MVPs, and was probably a better teammate. He didn’t care about stats so much, just about helping his team win games, and win games he did – he never missed the playoffs in his career, something that only Russell and Magic could say in my top 10. Duncan was a complete player, although he never led the league in scoring or had a DPOY – his offense and defense were often low key but valuable in crucial moments of the game.
  9. Kobe Bryant. A very polarizing player, some people rank Kobe in the top 3, some people rank Kobe outside the top 10. The reason he’s so polarizing is due to his style of play. Since he’s almost a clone of Jordan – many fans think he should be ranked next to Jordan – although this is false premise, because Kobe trails Jordan (and often significantly) in every statistical category and award category except for 3PT shooting. Nevertheless, Kobe is in my top 10 because of his great work ethic and desire to win. He wasn’t a great shooter (he was league average at shooting which is considered low for an all time great), but that never stopped him from trying to step up in the big moments. He has the second most accolades of any shooting guard and thats why I have to rank him in my top 10 (but not higher than #9).
  10. Jerry West. Some people might wonder, why Jerry West here? Why not Oscar Robertson? Hakeem? Shaq? other players that some people put in their top 10. I’m not opposed to anyone putting Oscar/Hakeem/Shaq over West, I mean that’s their list, and those guys all have MVPs and in Hakeem/Shaq’s case more rings than West. But Jerry West is my favorite player ever. Before Jordan, he was probably the most complete guard to play the game. And unlike Wilt, he was relatable. We’re not physical freaks like that guy was. West was more of the every man that got his points, rebounds and assists through hard work and determination alone. He was a better defensive player than Oscar, and a better teammate by all accounts as well. He went to a total of 10 NBA Finals, which is the most by any non 60s Celtics player. He was unlucky – several of his NBA Finals like in 1962, 1969 and 1970 came down to an unlucky game 7. He was nicknamed Mr Clutch because of his ability to step up in close moments. He played point guard equally as well as shooting guard – leading the league in both scoring and assists before. He still holds the NBA record for most PPG average in any playoff series at 46 PPG. He is the only player ever awarded Finals MVP on a losing team – a testament to how badly he wanted to win. And let’s not forget – he’s probably the GOAT of NBA executives as well. That’s why he’s the NBA Logo and why I put him ahead of Oscar, Hakeem and Shaq despite not having as many MVPs/Rings.