South Korea is for a number of reasons. Yes the men have to do mandatory military service there for 2 years but its a small price to pay for a number of advantages:
- Korea’s a more ‘traditional’ country where women especially in the southern parts like Gyeongsang-do and Jeolla-do and Jeju-do, do most or all of the housework, cooking and child-bearing. Many mothers in these parts specifically raise their daughters to expect to take on these burdens after marriage. In China, the husband and wife usually share household duties. Housewives are common in Korea, but almost unheard of in China.
- China has a gender imbalance. 20–30 million more men than women which has caused the side effect of having somewhat spoiled women. Korean men still outnumber women but the ratio is not as bad and in cities like Seoul there is actually more women than men (partly due to a portion of men being stationed for the military), this means men don’t have to compete as much for the women.
- Going with the ‘less independent’ theme, Korea is home to the OECD’s highest gender pay gap, the women make on average 30% less than the men do! China on the other hand (they are not part of the OECD) has one of the smallest gender pay gaps, even better than the USA! Percentage wise, there are way more Chinese female CEOs than Korean female CEOs. In Korea, the job most women aspire to is to be a flight attendant – think about that. A job that requires you to be pretty and subservient. Hardly a Chinese girl’s dream job – they want to start their own businesses. See the difference? So Korea is better for men, because less independent/less money = harder to divorce = men have more advantage.
- More eye candy for men. For better or worse, Chinese women seem to dress like American women, more casually, whereas Korean women wear more feminine outfits. Yes, I know most Korean women probably dress for themselves not for men, but still you can’t ignore that it is better eye candy for the men. The Korean school uniforms are way better looking than Chinese school uniforms and a lot of women wear short skirts and dresses even in the winter. And you can’t forget about the pool parties and outdoor festivals in the summer. Bikinis everywhere lol.
- The justice system is more favorable to men than women. Police don’t care about domestic disputes at all, so men can often get away with doing anything to his wife. As another example, there was a case of a woman taking nude pics of a male art model and spreading it around – she was sentenced to 2 years in jail. Meanwhile, in another case a guy was spreading nude pics of his ex-gf / revenge porn and guess what, he gets a $2000 fine. No jailtime.
- Korea is also more open about sex, and while prostitution exists in a legal grey area in both countries, Korea is more tolerant about it than China is. Adult sex shops are everywhere. Motels are everywhere. Korea has the second most prostitutes per capita in the world right next to Philippines. I don’t have the specific statistics, but it wouldn’t surprise me to know that Korean men cheat more on average than Chinese men do. The society just makes it so much easier to. And while porn is banned in both countries, Korea at least has sexy movies. Remember when Tang Wei was blacklisted from China for those sex scenes in Lust, Caution? Kim Tae-ri started her career doing lesbian sex scenes in The Handmaiden.
Or how about The Concubine so many of these steamy Joseon-era movies that China wouldn’t dare make.
This is a plus for men, because obviously men need to relieve themselves more than women do, and the more open a country is about it, the better for them.
I think the biggest and #1 misconception China has about Korea is that they often think Koreans are much more arrogant and vain than they actually are. I think their impressions of Koreans = nationalistic netizens. But those are not the everyday Korean people, just like how nationalistic Chinese netizens do not represent the average Chinese.
Since 2013 I’ve been back to Korea each and every year, and I’ve never met any Korean that hated China or thought that Korea was better than China or thought that Confucius/chinese festivals/chinese history/etc was Korean, never. Yet this is a widespread belief amongst Chinese people both I met in person and online, I’m not exactly sure why.
Personally from my experience (both online and in person), I’ve found that Chinese people brag a lot more about their country than Koreans do. Many Koreans actually dislike their country a lot (young peoples call it ‘Hell Joseon’) and one of the main differences I’ve found between Korean and Chinese is that Koreans lack a lot of self-confidence (either in their English or appearance or abilities, etc) whereas Chinese are very confident in themselves. So I don’t know how Chinese could think that Koreans are arrogant unless their opinion comes from nationalistic Korean netizens only (2002 World Cup controversy etc I’ve never met a Korean who actually brought up this topic in person, only online).
I think #2 misconception is that USA controls South Korea and can order it to attack anyone they want but its not true:
After becoming a democracy in the 1990s, the South Korean government assumed peacetime command of its 655,000 active military personnel.
The South Korean military coordinates closely with the Combined Forces Command and the United Nations Command led by U.S. General Vincent Brooks, who is also commander of the 28,500-plus member U.S. military force in Korea.
In wartime, the U.S. commander would assume control of South Korean forces as well, but it is not an automatic transfer of command. The South Korean president has to first agree to cede that control.
South Korea could soon take control of its own wartime operations from the USSouth Korea actually has full control over its military even in war-time in the near future
It’s true that he was never the unquestionable best player in the league. During his prime (2003–2011) he usually had Duncan/Lebron to compete with, and to a lesser extent Nash and Dirk who also competed with Kobe for MVPs during that time. Since a lot of Kobe fans like to talk about his MVPs getting stolen from him by other players let’s take a look at the MVP voting shares during Kobe’s prime (which I define to be 2005–2010 ish) and lets also look at win shares since that is an objectively good look for being the ‘best player’ comparisons. If you were the unquestioned best player, you should be either #1 or #2 in win shares, and you should be either #1 or #2 spot for MVP voting.
Ok so 2005 the year that Kobe fans think Nash ‘stole’ the award from Kobe. Uhh… Kobe wasn’t even on the MVP voting list this year. So.. I’m gonna say that Kobe wasn’t the best player this year since he wasn’t even on the voting list and moreover didn’t even make the playoffs that year.
Ok how about 2006? Did Nash steal from Kobe this year? Well … not exactly. Kobe was 4th in MVP voting. Hard to make a case that someone stole from you when you were 4th place. He was 4th in win shares as well. Also, he lost in the first round of playoffs that year.
Ok how about 2007? Did Dirk steal the MVP away from Kobe? Kobe was in third place this year. He was 3rd in win shares (tied with Duncan). I’m going to say no, at least not any more than Duncan was stolen from that year.
So in 2008 Kobe won his only MVP. He wasn’t the first in win shares though (that would be CP3) – Kobe was 4th in win shares that year despite winning the MVP. Hard to make a case for being the unquestioned best player in the league when you beat your 2nd place finisher by only 200 points and was 4th in win shares.
I can’t say Lebron robbed Kobe this year because even though Kobe was second place, Lebron beat him by a 417+ point margin in MVP voting and Kobe was 6th in win shares.
And in 2010, the last year of Kobe’s true prime, he was 3rd in MVP voting, and way below in win shares as well.
So there you have it, Kobe has never led the league in both MVP voting and win shares at the same time (or even be in second place for both), in fact he was only top 2 in MVP voting for 2 years (2008, 2009) and thus I cannot consider him the unquestioned best player in the league in either his prime or his career.