This used to be a topic that I used to argue quite passionately about, but has since died down. However, it came up today as a passionate discussion in a meetup group that I belong to, as well as a forum topic, and a topic my brother brought up. Yes, its the topic that is guarantee to incite some heated debates: White guys dating Asian girls.
So why is this such a hot topic? Why does it incite such passionate debate amongst Asian men? Well I think the root of it all is that whenever we (Asian men) see an Asian girl dating a White guy, the Asian girl is assumed to be: 1) Self hating of her race, 2) With the white guy based solely on his race or money, and the White guy assumed to have yellow fever (fetish for Asian girls).
So, at one time, I too used to be angry whenever I saw a white guy + asian girl together making out or holding hands or whatever, especially if it was a pretty Asian girl. I mean, why did she choose to be with him? Why not an Asian guy like me? What does he have that I don’t besides the skin color? But later this feeling died down because I realized several things.
1) If you want her, go for her.
If you are shy, of course another dude is gonna come over and take her. If you are so afraid of a caucasian male taking that Asian female, then step up your game and flirt with her, ask her out. Why wait for your fear to come true? Make a move before he does.
2) Some Asian girls are going to have a preference for White men. Deal with it.
Some girls, whether its Media bias or some other reason (historically, AF-WM are featured everywhere from John Lennon-Yoko Ono to Harry Potter-Cho Chang), just have a strong preference for white guys. And maybe they are racist for having that preference. But so what, a lot of Asian guys are racist too for only wanting to date Asian girls. In the end, it’s their choice and you should respect that.
3) Who cares?
Yeah, so you see a lot of White male – Asian female couples. So what? How many Asian females are out there? billions. Point is, there’s plenty of Asian females out there. It’s a waste of time getting jealous or thinking its unjust that they date another race. Because in the end, there is still obviously more Asian couples than interracial couples.
That post was directed towards mostly other Asian men who get riled up about this topic. To Asian girls: It’s your decision but don’t date a caucasian guy because you think they have “better genetics, taller, better looking, make prettier babies and “Bigger” etc“. Date them for who they are. Because that’s a generalization, and if you ever date people based on expectations, you’ll almost surely be disappointed.
Edit: I found this interesting: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/?a=1 according to this article, we’re all subconsciously racist. Everyone likes white guys, but no one likes black women.
As an Asian girl dating a white guy, thank you. I daresay that while I’ve had crushes on Asian guys before, I’ve never met one that I’ve really liked as a person. I’ve also seen several white girl/Asian guy couples floating around, and nobody seems to be making a commotion about that. You’re also the first to call the Asian guys who only want to date Asian girls racist, and I also thank you for that.
Any girl who is dating any guy because he is taller, has better genetics, etc. is not worth your time.
I too am an Asian girl dating a Caucasian guy. I’ve never really had a crush on an Asian guy before because there really aren’t very many Asians where I live.
For me, I choose not to date Filipino guys that have been Americanized because of the immaturity that Filipino guys tend to have. And Filipino guys would say the exact same thing about Filipino girls.
I was told by my white uncle that I seemed like the type to date white guys only. That is false because I’ve dated only one person thus far and he is currently my boyfriend. There is no way I can verify whether I’m prone to dating only white guys.
I would never date a person for their looks or for the hopes of creating beautiful babies. It’s definitely better not to date based on expectations.
Stephanie speaks the truth. Asian guys have it easy when dating white women. A white guy dating an Asian girls starts world war 5
I’ve never really thought about it, but, yup, I think you are right. It’s easier for an asian guy to date a white girl than a white guy dating an asian girl.
I am an Asian girl who is currently dating NO ONE.
I find this post very interesting because in my country, Asian girls tend to get envious of other Asian girls that are dating white guys. Why? Because they are “different” and “foreign”. You know, people tend to like things that are different. So, dating or marrying a foreigner would be totally awesome here. It is not just about dating/marrying white guys. Local girls can get envious if you are dating, say, a Korean or a Japanese guy.
As for me, I’ve never dated a white guy before. It is not because I am racist. It is because I haven’t found one that I actually like. But anyway, I don’t really pay attention to my love life.
Anyways, there is no reason to be angry when you see asian girls with white guys. College courses on social science as well as racial sensitivity are teaching asian women to avoid white men by telling them we are all subconsciously racist when it cannot be proven as fact.
The mere fact you all promote AM/WF while trying to end all AF/WM is hypocrisy.
I am a 21 years old asian girl (an attractive one if i have to say so myself) who is attracted to white guys. alot of people are disgusted by it sadly. It’s not that i won’t date asian guys. I find alot of asian guys are extremely attractive too. I maybe attract to them because i’m from a country side of an isolated village, so a golden head and deep sea eyes color are very attractive to me. Lol I never date one and i don’t plan to date one, i just find them “exotic”. So does this make me a girl with white fever?
1. As an Asian male, I would probably look the other way if I saw a WM/AF couple but it wasn’t too long ago that there were all these sick self-hating AFs who only bragged that “I only date white men. I don’t date Asian men” ( which also means that she will not date any Black, Latino, Middle-Eastern or whatever man of any other race because they are all inferiormand not good enough for her). Then these sick AFs will appear on YouTube or some other video bashing Asian men for everything from their physical attributes ( which these AFs also have e.g. being short) to their geekiness AS THE REASON FOR DATING WHITE GUYS ONLY. It’s one thing if you white-worshipping AFs to want to date white men only. It’s another for you to stoop so low as to bash the opposite sex of your own race AS AN EXCUSE FOR EXCLUSIVELY DATING MEN OF A PARTICULAR RACE YOU WORSHIP. It shows how sick and ugly you are on the inside besides spitting on your own culture. If these AFs had dated white men without making such a big deal out of it just like the way Black men dated White women, there won’t be so many angry Asian men out there.
2. According to a survey taken in the past ( unfortunately, the website has been removed) it has been shown that women overwhelmingly prefer to date
men of their own race. The only exception were Asian women where a significant percentage ( though still the minority) preferred to date white males. Basically, this survey shows that there is nothing wrong for women to show a preference for dating a man of her own race. It is not racist
Right, I think part of it due to history, part of it due to media. Historically (and even true to this day), Asia has been poorer than the West. After WWII, Korea was divided after a war, Japan was bombed to bits, China was suffering from a long civil war and a Maoist regime. The freedom and prosperity the US enjoyed after this period is something that alot of Asians wanted. And even now, Asians associate America with success, power, wealth, and unfortunately, white people. As an Asian, if I went back to China, people wouldn’t think of me differently, but if I was white, they would think of me as having wealth and power. And of course, Hollywood just makes it worse by exacerbating these stereotypes. Asian females are often given roles as the object of affection by Caucasian males, and Asian males are no where to be seen. It’s just unfortunate.
Asian girls have been fetishized by a lot men in the west, who see them as exotic and mysterious, a whole ‘nother flavor in the banquet that is women. Many of those same men also tend to be under the impression that Asia is a continent just teeming with hot girls who absolutely love white men. Of course, part of this misconception could stem from the fact that in Asia, the men don’t even seem to have a good grasp of what their ladies look like. Seriously, they don’t even know how to draw their own women (For source, see every anime ever)..
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