The dream is dying…

These past few days have been depressing, more than usual I guess. I accidentally erased my video logs dating back to late 2013, where I would just talk to the camera about various issues at the time. I would do this at various times between 2013-present and I lost all my video logs back then since I don’t upload those to youtube and they were together on the disk with my other youtube video files so I accidentally deleted them while organizing my files.

So I had to recollect all my memories from back then and re-iterate them again. But the most disappointing part of being in Korea so far is being rejected by Korean girls, and thats the main source of my depression. I’ve been rejected by 3 girls on the first date in the last 2 months, and thats what spurring this rant today.

I have posted several times last year about how hard it was to get a Korean girl to like me, and in my total 2 years in Korea I’ve only had 2 girls that have been my official girlfriend, for a total of only about 4 months. Out of 24 months, the other 20 months I’ve been single. I’ve been on many dates, but for some reason the girl always rejects me or loses interest after the first date. I’m not sure what I did wrong. I pay for girls, I treat them nicely, I talk to her about her interests, etc I don’t understand what I am doing wrong on the first date.

The problem is for foreigners, we don’t have that many ways to meet Korean girls. Most couples that I see on the street, those Korean couples met through blind dating, they had a friend or coworker introduce them. Because I never went to school here or work for a Korean company, I don’t have anyone to introduce me. My Korean friends’ friends all already have a boyfriend or they don’t date foreign guys (xenophobic society I know). Thus we can meet girls only through a few ways, either going to club or bar or picking up girls through “hunting”, using meetups or language exchange apps or sites, or going to church.
I don’t like to do “hunting” as my personality is totally unfit for it, and its hard to change my personality. Meeting girls at church could be my last resort, but I’m not religious in any way. Using language exchange apps or sites have been the primary way for me to meet girls so far, and out of those girls I’ve met, 70% of them text me for a few days and then eventually stop texting or responding after that. the remaining 30% that are willing to meet me, about 90% of them are only interested in language exchange. So you can imagine how difficult it is to meet a girl on these apps or sites for dating. Its not exactly very easy. And dating apps are a crapshoot as well. Most dating apps are only for Koreans (they use phone verification to ensure only Koreans can use it), Naver cafe dating sites are again, only for Koreans as they use verification. Tinder is a crapshoot since mostly foreign girls use them and the Korean girls that use that only want white men.

So what am I to do? The last couple girls I have met for dating, all rejected me after the first date, leaving me more or less pretty much guaranteed to be single for my remaining 4 months in Korea. I’ve tried as hard as I can without resorting to going to church or hunting. I know Korean girls care about appearance and cleanliness, so I’ve changed my hairstyle and clothing style, did lasik surgery to get rid of glasses, etc I speak a combination of Korean and English so that they don’t feel too lost when I speak English. I always pay for them when we go out. I don’t know what else I can do to make them interested in me… I’ve tried my best.

So far I’ve met these kind of girls:
-left me hanging on the street after I told her that appearance is important
-called the cops on me because she thought I was secretly taking video of her
-blocked me because I suggested her to go to a hookah place and she thought it was some kind of dangerous drug
-blocked me because last time we met I couldn’t find where she was fast enough
-blocked me because I took 3 days to respond to her message (I was in SF meeting my coworkers at the time)
-blocked me because I couldn’t meet her for drinking beer the exact day she asked (I was in SF at the time)
-blocked me because I said her pictures were pretty
-blocked me because I made a (mild) joke about her ex-bf and learning his language
-blocked me and went crazy swearing at me because I uploaded a video of us together on my youtube that she didn’t like

Its like if I even did something like breathe the wrong way the girl would stop talking to me. I have no idea why I am meeting these types of girls while my friends always meets the kind of girls that are sweet and loving and want to be with them. Its like I’m cursed to forever be single or something.

Its ironic that I would have the most trouble getting a Korean girlfriend in Korea, the land of Korean girls. I want to keep trying though, since I am very devoted and loyal to them (haven’t dated a non Korean girl since 2012) and I am confident I can find the right girl, but maybe she’s not in Korea. Maybe I have to go back to USA or Canada to find her, as crazy as that sounds. I know those girls are more likely to be harder to get (more competition from American guys) and harder to find (less Koreans obviously) and probably going to go back to Korea at some point (exchange student), but what can I do? 2 years in Korea, and still nothing. I was too picky last year I know, but this year I’m not picky anymore, and I still can’t find the right girl. I am highly doubtful in the next 4 months that anything will change. I am close to giving up on finding a Korean girlfriend in Korea at this point. Its just torture seeing all these beautiful girls outside being really sweet and loving to their boyfriends, and knowing that I have no chance of getting those kind of girls to even respond to my messages let alone meet them and be in a relationship with them. Its like sitting behind the bars of a jail cell watching delicious food go past while you are hungry and starving, and unable to get those foods. Its within your reach, but you can’t get it. I’m about ready to leave Korea at this point. 4 more months of agony, out of my 20 months of total agony and I will finally go back to the USA, where I will still be lonely but the agony won’t be as painful because of the lack of Korean couples.

Some people ask me why Korean girls ? If you have so much trouble why don’t you marry a Chinese girl or Japanese girl? They don’t understand that
1) we are attracted to who we are attracted to. I can’t help who I like, why force myself to like girls who I don’t like?
2) Korean girls have the perfect combination of appearance and personality for me. Everything from their facial structure, way they dress, put on makeup, treat their boyfriend etc is perfect for me.
3) There’s vast differences between the 3 different races especially between Chinese and Korean girls. I’ve made a video about this before.
4) I don’t like it when people tell me this. It’s almost as if they think that Korean girls are out of my league and I should go for a “lesser” girl. Why don’t Korean guys or heck white guys get asked why they like Korean girls only?
5) I spent the last 4 years of my life focused on Korean language, culture and living in Korea. You think I would throw that all away and end up marrying a different kind of girl? That makes no sense.

But since its the last goal I really have in my life, I already have a stable job and an apartment, I need to devote all my resources to achieving this goal, and if 4 years of my life wasn’t enough (2 years studying Korean, 2 years spent in Korea), then we’ll keep going until this goal is achieved. As long as I am concerned, its either get the right Korean girlfriend who matches with me and marry her, or stay single forever. There’s no other option.

Comparisons of East Asia, China vs America

I just finished my trip to Taiwan, which concludes the last East Asian country I’ll be visiting. I visited China first in 2011, then Korea in 2013, then Japan and Taiwan this year. I already talked about some of these differences. Below you can see some videos I made.

I think that every one of these countries has there own unique idiosyncrasies and differences with each other, but its no secret I prefer South Korea the best. I think the nightlife there is the best and Korean women by far care the most about their appearance and are the best looking on average, but I think Taiwan and Japan have the best manners in general. Its interesting to note that I didn’t see a single tomboy in Seoul in all my time living there, whereas in Taiwan or China its very easy to find girls who dress or look like boys. This is a very unique factor about Seoul, the gender boundaries are very clear and the women there are the most feminine. In addition, some other things unique about Korea I noticed; I’ve seen the most couples on the streets there than anywhere else I’ve traveled to, literally every 1 in 4 people on the streets are a couple, and its the only Asian nation with a Christian majority. That’s interesting about Korea to say the least. Other Asian countries trend towards either Buddhism or Islam.

I plan to go to Shanghai again next year, this time to take some video since I didn’t have a camcorder with me last time.
Then I can do a proper comparison between Seoul vs Tokyo vs Shanghai, all three megacities. Taipei is too small of a city to be counted amongst those three.

I also find the more I learn about these different Asian cultures, the more I find that China in particular tends to have more in common with the USA than with Korea/Japan/Taiwan.

Similarities between China and USA
-They are tied for being the 3rd largest country on Earth
-They are the two biggest economies in the world
-Chinese and Americans are both known for having a lot of national pride, sometimes bordering on arrogance
-They are both very diverse countries with multiple races and languages
-There is a huge gap between the rich and the poor in both countries
-They contain the world’s first and second largest population of prisoners
-They contain the world’s first and second most billionares
-They are the largest influences in their respective hemispheres
-Chinese and American women are both known for being strong and independent
-Most people dress casually in both countries and there is no ‘standard’ for appearance, compared to Korea/Japan where more people dress up and wear makeup
-No rules on politeness either! You can be as nice or as rude as you want to in both countries. In Korea/Japan there are politeness rules in both the language and culture

Just some interesting things I’ve noticed…

Comparison of Luxury watches

I’ve always thought a classic mechanical watch is better a smartwatch; it lasts longer, has more sentimental value and if its automatic, will probably never need charging. Plus they look unique. There’s hundreds of thousands of styles compared to just one black AMOLED screen for the smartwatch. I have the same complaint about modern smartphones these days too. I miss the days when phones came in all different sizes and forms, slider phones, candy bar, flip, clamshell, etc now there’s just one type: big black slab.

Anyways here’s a comparison of all the luxury watch makers I found. Is it worth it? questionable, but these brands all have a lot of cachet.

Audemars Piguet
Founded: 1875
Headquarters: Le Brassus, Switzerland

Vacheron Constantin
Founded: 1755
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Patek Phillipe
Founded: 1851
Headquarters: Plan-les-Ouates, GE, Switzerland

A. Lange & Söhne
Founded: 1845
Headquarters: Glashütte, Germany

Breguet
Founded: 1775
Headquarters: Vallée de Joux, Switzerland

Blancpain
Founded: 1735
Headquarters: Paudex, Switzerland

Longines
Founded: 1832
Headquarters: Saint-Imier, Switzerland

Chopard
Founded: 1860
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

IWC
Founded: 1868
Headquarters: Schaffhausen, Switzerland

Girard-Perregaux
Founded: 1791
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Ulysse Nardin
Founded: 1846
Headquarters: Le Locle Switzerland

Tissot
Founded: 1853
Headquarters: Le Locle, Switzerland

Panerai
Founded: 1860
Headquarters: Milan, Italy

Piaget
Founded: 1874
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Cartier
Founded: 1847
Headquarters: Paris, France

Breitling
Founded: 1884
Headquarters: Grenchen, Switzerland

Rolex
Founded: 1905
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Jaeger-LeCoultre
Founded: 1833
Headquarters: Le Sentier, Vaud, Switzerland

Omega
Founded: 1903
Headquarters: Biel/Bienne, Switzerland

Tag Heur
Founded: 1860
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Baume et Mercier
Founded: 1830
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Gallet
Founded: 1466
Headquarters: Zollikon-Zürich, Switzerland

Universal Genève
Founded: 1894
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Franck Muller
Founded: 1991
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Charriol
Founded: 1983
Headquarters: Le Locle, Switzerland

Zodiac Watches
Founded: 1882
Headquarters: Le Locle, Switzerland

Zenith
Founded: 1865
Headquarters: Le Locle, Switzerland

Montblanc
Founded: 1906
Headquarters: Hamburg, Germany

Corum
Founded: 1955
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Ebel
Founded: 1911
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Eberhard
Founded: 1887
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Invicta
Founded: 1837
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Rotary Watches
Founded: 1895
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Movado
Founded: 1881
Headquarters: La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland

Bulova
Founded: 1881
Headquarters: New York City, USA

Seiko
Founded: 1875
Headquarters: Tokyo, Japan

Solvil et Titus
Founded: 1887
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Mido
Founded: 1918
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Raymond Weil
Founded: 1976
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Frederique Constant
Founded: 1988
Headquarters: Geneva, Switzerland

Bell & Ross
Founded: 1992
Headquarters: Paris, France

Bremont
Founded: 2002
Headquarters: Henley-on-Thames, England